6 Things That Get Easier About Blogging if You Just Keep Going

The other day, I was exchanging emails with a fresh-out-of-the-box blogger who had reached the outer edges of overwhelm and was just about to enter Meltdown City.

Boy, could I relate.

The more she shared about her ‘in-over-my-head-and-can’t-keep-up’ feelings, the deeper I was drawn into my own memories of the first chaotic weeks of blogging when everything was complicated and seemed sure to blow up if I made the slightest misstep.

And then it hit me. No, not a blast from something I blew up, Smarty Pants!

What hit me was the realization that I was remembering that sense of overwhelm, but I was no longer experiencing it.

Somewhere along the way, when I was fumbling along without having so much as two clues to string together, blogging got easier. And by easier, I mean waaaay easier:

Here are a few things that have moved to my “easier” list:

  1. Posting. Writing and publishing posts took me just a hair shy of forever when I first started blogging. I hadn’t found my blogging voice yet, so the writing process was clunky, and navigating the WordPress Dashboard made me twitchy. A few posts in though, I settled down, found my voice, and actually started looking forward to writing posts (yes, I’m a sicko). And, the more times I published a post without setting off any alarms, the more I relaxed about that too.
  2. Managing my time. I had no clue how much time blogging would eat up before I started. Lucky for me, because the truth would have sent me running in the opposite direction. While part of the reason blogging took me so long was my lack of knowledge (aka cluelessness), the bigger reason was that I lacked focus and direction and avoided working with a schedule. Somewhere along the line, a clue-beam penetrated my noggin, and I started working with a schedule, setting daily action steps, and using a timer on days when I’m easily distracted.
  3. Prioritizing. I about drove myself and half the world crazy when I was trying to learn and do everything at once. I didn’t even have five posts up yet but I was checking stats, reading up on how to set up membership sites, and downloading ebooks on product launches. It took me some time to understand how blogging is a marathon and that some things are better left to learn when I get to mile market 16 than right now. These days, I focus on writing, promoting, and building community, which is easier, more effective, and reduces the number of crazy people in the world.
  4. Making friends. My friends and family don’t get the ‘blogging thing,’ so aside from a couple exceptions, I was totally on my own when I started. It was lonely going for awhile there, but finally I quit moping and did something about it. I joined some forums and visited and commented on other blogs even though it felt strange talking with strangers online. It didn’t take long though before I realized that online relationships work pretty much the same as offline ones. Now, every day is filled with sharing, encouragement, and laughter, and my online friends are a continuing source of joy.
  5. Chilling. I had more than a couple freakathons in my first weeks of blogging, like the day I accidentally took my blog offline installing a plugin. Be glad you weren’t here to witness that drama fest :) Fortunately, my hosting company fixed my self-induced problem in short order (thank you, Bluehost), but I learned a lot from the experience. As icky as it felt to be staring at a white screen where my blog had once been, the truly nasty bit was the state I put myself into by wigging out over the problem. Since then, stuff still happens, but usually I can just chill about it, breathe, and move on.
  6. Promoting. When I first started blogging, I looked at marketing and promotion through the eyes of someone who had been spammed by one too many sunglasses-hot-car-internet-marketer types. No way did I want to be lumped in with that sleaze-monkey crowd, so I didn’t promote my posts. Yeah, that was helpful :) Later though, I was hanging out at a forum and someone had a question one of my posts would answer. I realized that by not promoting my posts, I was essentially hiding something of value to others. Since then, I’ve gotten active on Twitter, have been an active commenter on other blogs, and have some guest posts in my future. While I won’t be winning marketer of the year anytime soon, I no longer hide my posts under the nearest rock.

There’s a lot of unfamiliar territory waiting for me up ahead, but knowing that so many things have gotten easier just by hanging in there gives me hope. Hopefully, it will give you confidence too because if I can do this, anyone can!

Your turn: How has blogging gotten easier for you by ‘just doing it?’

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125 Responses to 6 Things That Get Easier About Blogging if You Just Keep Going
  1. Deb Chitwood
    June 3, 2010 | 11:44 am

    Great post! It's true that it does get easier. I think the promotion part is really helped by the fact that Twitter and Facebook friends are fun!

  2. Deb Chitwood
    June 3, 2010 | 11:44 am

    Great post! It's true that it does get easier. I think the promotion part is really helped by the fact that Twitter and Facebook friends are fun!

  3. Deb Chitwood
    June 3, 2010 | 11:44 am

    Great post! It's true that it does get easier. I think the promotion part is really helped by the fact that Twitter and Facebook friends are fun!

  4. Angela
    June 3, 2010 | 11:50 am

    Excellent post – and one that gives me hope that I'll be able to get past some of those same roadblocks!!

  5. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 12:07 pm

    Thanks, Angela. It's hard to see the progress we're making sometimes because we're so close to the situation. You've got a beautiful blog, by the way!

  6. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 12:10 pm

    Thanks, Deb. And I know what you mean about the promotion part being fun. It seems almost impossible that something so enjoyable could be so good for our blogs, but it's true.

  7. John Chayachinda
    June 3, 2010 | 12:12 pm

    So true! Just made it through my first week of blogging and man, is it tough. That boulder I'm pushing up the hill hasn't budged at all, but I'll keep pushing. I'm experiencing five out of the six points you've described. So far, no major mishaps on my end, yet. Hopefully, when the exit for Meltdown City comes up, I'll just drive on passed it. Okay. Back to that boulder.

  8. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 12:28 pm

    Congrats on your one week anniversary, John! I was totally unprepared for how much work is involved in blogging. So much to learn and do all at the same time. The good news is that those boulders start building up momentum after awhile so we can catch a break.

  9. Meg
    June 3, 2010 | 12:31 pm

    Hey, Jean! Great post, cool blog. I've been blogging in one place or another for about five years now, have participated in a lot of forums, and even met my husband online in an artist's forum ten years ago! I find that the more you do this, you'll not only find and refine your own “voice,” but you'll learn to recognize a genuine voice in others, too.

    Everything you say in your post applies to long-term bloggers as well, because few bloggers remain static in their focus or intent. As we grow as people, it is natural to want to grow as a blogger–but sometimes that makes us scatterbrained and unfocused while we try to sort out just what it is we are now trying to do. I'm going through that right now, trying to rein in FOUR blogs into something coherent and sustainable. It's about 25% there. Makes life interesting ;) But it also means having to reconsider many of the six points you listed, such as re-prioritizing, re-promoting, etc. Good post.

  10. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 12:52 pm

    Hi Meg, and thanks for stopping by. Four blogs??? I think I need some chocolate after hearing that :) Good point that we'll revisit many of these issues/feelings at different stages on the blogging path.

  11. Farnoosh
    June 3, 2010 | 1:17 pm

    Hey Jean, I so so enjoyed reading this, first for your writing voice (which I am very glad you found :)) and second for your tips. I know how all of these felt for you – every single one – and the best part is when we find our community of friends and supporters in the fabulous blogosphere. I am your newest fan and subscriber yet and I love the banner design up top. (Still on my to-do list as you can tell ;))! Wonderful post!

  12. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 1:27 pm

    Hi, Farnoosh. Thanks for taking the time to stop in and comment, and I'm so happy to have you as a subscriber! I ended up getting my design for free because I procrastinated for so long and then won a contest for a free header design. I love how the Universe works :)

  13. Linda
    June 3, 2010 | 1:29 pm

    Thanks Jean – just what I needed to read.

    I've just written my 100th Post and it has been a huge commitment writing every day. Having thought hard about it I've decided to just post on weekdays. Once I'd made that decision I immediately felt better!

    I enjoy writing and I don't want to feel overwhelmed by the task. I'm going to build up a clutch of posts for days when I just can't write – taking a holiday, time off etc.

    I'm so determined to build a following and will foolow all your tips carefully.

  14. Farnoosh
    June 3, 2010 | 1:35 pm

    That's the *best* story – procrastinate long enough until it falls on your lap ;)!
    Just kidding….Good deal. I wonder why my photo didn't show with Gravatar…It always shows up fine with Disqus or other comments. Oh well, here is a smile back !!!

  15. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 1:42 pm

    Congratulations on your 100th post!!! Now that is a cake-worthy moment, indeed! I'm glad you found a posting rhythm that works for you, Linda. It's hard to take our own steps in that regard because there are so many voices telling us to do it this way or that way. In the end, it's all about what works best for us and our readers.

  16. Kayla
    June 3, 2010 | 2:15 pm

    Hi Jean!

    Man, was this post well timed! I am in the midst of the same type of meltdown mentioned in your post. I have been blogging for only 3 weeks and it seems like it is spinning out of control and if I lose control, some how I will have lost my blog forever. I have just so much worry about it. :) I know it is not as bad as all that and so what if I don't know everything right away? It will all get better. I sometimes feel that I am just not keeping up with all the other, much more fabulous bloggers out there-and how can I compete with bloggers who have been blogging for YEARS? Oh well. Thank you, Jean for this blog. It has helped me step back and take a deep breath.

    Kayla

  17. Karen
    June 3, 2010 | 2:38 pm

    Hi Jean,

    This post brought back some memories! I was so overwhelmed at the beginning of my site, even though I used to blog years ago. Everything had changed and I had to learn new technologies (which was fun) and get into a rhythm of blogging. It was easy when I was inspired – articles just sort of wrote themselves. But, as with everything, it can get harder to find the inspiration and that when self-doubt creeps in. I agree that certain things get easy the more you've been blogging, but some other things get harder, too. More is expected of you to keep going and offering new things to your readers. It's very time-consuming as well. I can totally relate to that. But, that's not to say that I wouldn't do it again – I'm getting a lot of satisfaction from helping so many people find meaning in their lives.

    Thanks,
    Karen

  18. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 2:47 pm

    We all pitch our tents in Meltdown City now and again, Kayla :) I remember that 'falling behind' feeling that came because I was putting pressure on myself to learn and do everything all at once. One thing that helped me in this regard was to just get away from all the voices in the blogosphere now and again so I could reconnect with my own purpose. Remembering why I was doing this and who I was doing it for helped me settle down and enjoy the ride again. Keep taking those deep breaths, Kayla. You're on the right path and the only 'right' speed is your speed.

  19. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 2:51 pm

    Count me in as one of those who is glad you returned to blogging and that you stick with it now, Karen. Your blog, plus your guest posts, continually inspire me. Good heads up for us all on some of the challenges we'll face down the road too!

  20. rob white
    June 3, 2010 | 3:36 pm

    Hi Jean,
    First, I love the concept of your blog. What a great idea. I went into blogging and social media kicking and screaming (I just wanted to sit home and write my books :) ). I now enjoy the posting, commenting and interacting. With a sincere persistence I am starting to see the results and value.

  21. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 3:56 pm

    Hi, Rob. I've just been over to your blog and love both it and the community you've built up over there. For me the interaction is such a joy and has actually become a good sense of motivation for me in terms of writing posts. That's good because I need all the motivation I can get :)

  22. TheInfoPreneur
    June 3, 2010 | 4:00 pm

    Hey Jean,
    I think beginner bloggers have such a huge learning curve, it is just so hard to focus on being relaxed and letting the creative juices flow, while technical stuff is holding you back…if that makes sense.

    You are right on with your points, though.

    Brandon

  23. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 4:14 pm

    That makes total sense, Brandon. I was my own worst enemy in that regard too because I kept thinking I needed to install a bunch of plugins right off the bat when all I really needed was Akismet for spam and one for backups. I'd install something, sweat bullets trying to configure it, mess things up, curse at the universe . . . . no fun at all! Oh well, live and learn.

  24. JillianMcCoy
    June 3, 2010 | 4:57 pm

    I'm still going through a lot of these steps, so this one really hit home. A few of these things are more pinned down than others for me, but I'm going to love having this to check back with and see how I'm doing in weeks and months to come. Thanks Jean! :)

  25. k0zm0zs0ul
    June 3, 2010 | 7:04 pm

    I think once you've been 'doing it' for awhile, you just naturally find a sort of rhythm for posting, promoting, etc. Sure sometimes I fall off the wagon (I actually have been a total slacker all this week… not a single new post in sight!) but I keep at it, don't beat myself up too much when I'm a slacker, and make up for it later. lol

    Although managing four blogs like Miz Meg up there just might make me crazy. Maybe.

  26. Mike Roosa
    June 3, 2010 | 7:48 pm

    Hey Jean. Another excellent post. Isn't it funny how the more we write the more we have to say and the easier it becomes. I was always afraid of running out of things to write about, but each day something new just comes to me. It's just a matter of getting the ball rolling.

  27. Hulbert
    June 3, 2010 | 9:54 pm

    Jean, thanks for sharing your experiences of how you begin blogging. When I started, navigating through WordPress Dashboard made me twitchy also! :)

    Blogging has gotten easier for me by just doing it. I think just like anything in life, when you begin doing it, it just naturally because easier as you go. I definitely prefer this method over sitting and preparing too much in my head.

  28. Jake LaCaze
    June 3, 2010 | 9:59 pm

    Of the points you made, #4 was my favorite because I can totally relate. Surprisingly, I'm slowly finding that more and more of my friends are starting to read and enjoy my blog. Maybe the same will happen to you. ;)

  29. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 10:27 pm

    Hey Jake, thanks for stopping by. That's cool some of your friends are reading your blog now. My friends and family get excited over the book I'm writing, but they still don't get the point of blogging. That's okay, cause I do :)

  30. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 10:29 pm

    You are doing a great job, Hulbert. I love your interviews and the whole positive tone of your blog. I'm with you on just doing it' vs. over-thinking things. I was a chronic over-thinker in the past and hardly got anything done.

  31. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 10:32 pm

    Thanks, Mike. I figure if the old writer's well runs dry I've got so many ideas written down that I can probably last for a few years Then again, sometimes I look at those notes I made before and wonder what the heck I was thinking about :)

  32. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 10:34 pm

    Yeah, I've been wondering what the heck's going on with you, ms. slacker. I thought maybe your feed was broken and that's why new posts weren't showing up in my Reader. Hey, that's a great excuse . . . “Gee, the reason you didn't see any new posts is cause my feed was broken . . . ” That could work :) You're worth waiting for, so no worries!

  33. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 10:40 pm

    Hey Jillian, good to see you here! I was checking out your May report on your blog and found that Twitter info. especially interesting. See, this is why I don't bother checking my stats . . . I can just read everyone else's great info. when they post it and learn from them :) Here's wishing you a fabulous June!

  34. laurie
    June 3, 2010 | 10:55 pm

    Jean – well timed… although I think even some of this still lies way before me. I look forward to being able to turn around and be able to look back and actually give advice instead of look for it. I think the best advice I've learned for myself so far is to give myself the gift of time – and then so many of the pressures have dropped away. Thank you for shining a light on the future!

  35. virginbloggernotes
    June 3, 2010 | 11:04 pm

    Hi, Laurie. The gift of time is a beautiful thing to give ourselves. It helps us enjoy the place we're at. It's way to easy to forget that this is supposed to fun if we get all frenzied.

  36. William K Wallace
    June 3, 2010 | 11:15 pm

    My present blog, has been up and running for over a year now and I still don't feel I have truly found my voice yet…but I'm getting there. Some days are a struggle but mostly its fun and the more popular my blog gets the bigger the buzz I get from it…

  37. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 12:14 am

    Thanks for stopping by and commenting, William. I think you should make some of those Rowies you talked about in your post, send them to me, and then get back to your writing :) You've got an authentic style so just keep on keeping on!

  38. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 12:14 am

    Thanks for stopping by and commenting, William. I think you should make some of those Rowies you talked about in your post, send them to me, and then get back to your writing :) You've got an authentic style so just keep on keeping on!

  39. Kaizenvision
    June 4, 2010 | 12:15 am

    oh yes the barrier to entry may be small – but that learning curve is steep – more of a steep mountain not so much of a curve (curve sounds mild)! I'm 3 months in and still feel like I'm coming out of the box. HA!

    Great article and very inspiring for virgin bloggers!!!!!!!!

  40. Kaizenvision
    June 4, 2010 | 12:15 am

    oh yes the barrier to entry may be small – but that learning curve is steep – more of a steep mountain not so much of a curve (curve sounds mild)! I'm 3 months in and still feel like I'm coming out of the box. HA!

    Great article and very inspiring for virgin bloggers!!!!!!!!

  41. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 12:22 am

    Steep mountain is right, and wouldn't you just know that I'm afraid of heights!?!? Hey, are there donuts in that box? If there are, I'm crawling in too.

  42. Angela Artemis
    June 4, 2010 | 12:26 am

    Hi Jean,
    Boy you brought back memories for me too! Although, I still feel that I don't know enough yet – especially all technical tricks.

    After 6 months I've finally relaxed about blogging. I try my best and that's all I can do.

    The hard part is trying to squeeze in blogging when you already have a pretty full life.

    Jean, thanks for making me see how far I've come.

  43. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 12:35 am

    Hi Angela. If we could all be relaxed and willing to accept our best efforts after six months in, that would be a heck of a lot of progress. I think we should probably have some cake to celebrate how far you've come :) By the way, that “Would you Rather have a Big House or a Big Life Post” you just did was fabulous!

  44. Dave Doolin
    June 4, 2010 | 12:58 am

    Jean, I think you have grown a community here even faster than James did.

    Curious where you're gonna take it.

  45. Dia
    June 4, 2010 | 1:13 am

    Thanks Jean for this article. I myself started blogging two weeks ago :D I agree with number 2 a lot, we have to manage our time as blogging takes a lot of our time daily. Thanks for all the tips :)

  46. Katie Tallo
    June 4, 2010 | 1:29 am

    This post reminds me of the first time I commented on your blog and messed that up. I was such a newbie even commenting was beyond me. Wow, Jean this is just a great, heartfelt and encouraging post for all of us. Again, I will follow your advice, especially about chilling out, making friends and marketing in helpful ways, not hiding ways. Thanks.

  47. mark
    June 4, 2010 | 1:37 am

    Hi Jean,

    For me, writing and promoting have gotten MUCH easier. There is still quite a bit that I have not tried yet (forums, etc.) but I am in no hurry. When I first started, I was really anti-promo as all the promo that I saw seemed a bit obnoxious. But then I found some ways that did not seem too bad. :)

    I laughed when you talked about your family/friends not getting what you do. I have tons of friends who get it, but don't do any blogging outside of real nerdy stuff (which I like too, I am just saying – it is nerdy). So anyway, I really did not have anyone that I wanted to tell about my blog. I think my wife is the only one who knows about it and she does not read it (I don't know why…).

    Well, enough procrastinating, I have a post to write. Have a good day!

  48. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 1:41 am

    Hi Dia – and congrats on being two weeks into blogging now! Isn't it amazing how long blogging-related things can take? Granted, things took me a long time because I really had no idea what I was doing, but still . . . things don't install right or we try to find the right words for a post . . . sometimes I think it's a miracle any of us make it past the first month!

  49. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 1:52 am

    Hi Dave, always good to see you here. My goal when I started was to create a safe and supportive place for bloggers to hang out, so I'm glad to see people are stopping in, checking things out, and coming back whenever they can. I think there's a huge potential for positive ventures in the future with all the talent that's shining out from these folks . . . stay tuned :)

  50. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 1:55 am

    I remember the comment trauma :) But you prevailed and look at the amazing things that have happened since . . . guest posts on GoodLife Zen, Write to Done, and of course you've got your own beautiful blog! Yes, we really do people a favor when we create good things and then share them with the world. That's my way of looking at marketing these days. Although I do kinda like the hot car thing :)

  51. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 2:00 am

    You'd be a natural on forums with your personality, Mark. It's a great way to connect, help others out, and learn a ton. But, your plate is pretty full at the moment, and it is summer after all. No working too hard allowed! My husband rarely reads my blog either. I suppose by living with me he hears all the words that he can handle in one day? Ha.

  52. Ammar
    June 4, 2010 | 5:40 am

    Agreed. I believe if you create a realistic process and keep at it you will definitely improve in these things.

  53. darrenlcarter
    June 4, 2010 | 8:52 am

    Hey Jean,

    Good post. I'm in that stage where things are definitely mayhem. I like how you put it as being a marathon. Good imagery.

    Also about finding your blogging voice. I hadn't thought about it but that is exactly what has changing to make me alittle bit more comfortable writing than when I started last month. Even my commenting voice has changed and become easier and more natural. Thanks for point all this out!

    Peace,
    Darren L Carter

  54. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 11:24 am

    Mayhem. Yep, I can relate to that. You do really seem to have settled into your voice and are great at sharing stories from your life in your posts and then tying that into something that gets readers to think of their own lives. It makes for interesting reading!

  55. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 11:33 am

    Hey, Ammar. Thanks for stopping by. Being realistic is a big key. I think so many of us are totally unrealistic when we first start out and want to do everything at once, want immediate results, etc. That leads to a big headache!

  56. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 11:33 am

    Hey, Ammar. Thanks for stopping by. Being realistic is a big key. I think so many of us are totally unrealistic when we first start out and want to do everything at once, want immediate results, etc. That leads to a big headache!

  57. Dev | Technshare
    June 4, 2010 | 2:44 pm

    Excellent post.. spot on. Managing time and networking is the key to success (at least to me).
    When i first started blogging, i go visit every blog and check is there any new posts. :D !! , but no i am using feel domain.and some . great tools to manage my time.

    Thanks for sharing this great Post. Have a great weekend.

    ~Dev

  58. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 3:16 pm

    Managing time and making online friends makes for a richer life all the way around I think. That's what I'm finding with blogging overall . . . so many of the things I do to improve my blog end up improving my life. Pretty cool when things work out that way :)

  59. Brandon Connell
    June 4, 2010 | 3:32 pm

    I feel like a broken record with this one. It's the biggest hurdle to get over, but once you do it never becomes a problem again.

  60. Keith Davis
    June 4, 2010 | 3:43 pm

    Hi Jean
    Good to know that things get easier – you've given me hope.
    Interesting that you say “my online friends are a continuing source of joy”
    When I started blogging I had no idea that there was a community of bloggers out ther, what a surprise!
    I visit blogs and leave comments and people visit me and leave comments.
    Lots and lots of support from other bloggers.

    BTW – many thanks for visiting my site and leaving a great comment.

  61. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 4:23 pm

    I know exactly what you mean, Keith. I was so surprised (delighted!) when I discovered the active communities built around various blogs and in forums and how supportive and just plain fun people could be. You can be I'll be visiting your site more in the future too!

  62. virginbloggernotes
    June 4, 2010 | 4:23 pm

    If all broken records sounded like you, Brandon, that would be a good thing! You've got a lot of common sense and wisdom to share!

  63. Scott Barron
    June 4, 2010 | 5:36 pm

    I didn't know you were with BlueHost. I use them also & I've not had any problems. I haven't needed their customer service, but I'm glad to hear your experience was helpful.

    You're right about the time it takes. I'm amazed.

    I'm glad all your hard work is paying off.

  64. Scott Barron
    June 5, 2010 | 12:41 am

    The cutest picture of your pussy is on my website. I wrote a lovely article

    Cleaning House

    that I hope you get a chance to read. As usual, thinking of you.

  65. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 12:56 am

    Yeah, Bluehost saved me from myself :) I couldn't believe how quickly they took care of the trouble. Then again, I suppose they're used to dealing with people like me all the time. I bet they get a good laugh over the dumb stuff we do :)

  66. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 1:01 am

    One of these days, Scott Barron . . . when you least expect it . . . He's talking about Olivia, my feisty gray cat, by the way!

  67. Angela Artemis
    June 5, 2010 | 5:02 am

    Hi Jean, Thank you so much!
    Yes, how about Carrot Cake?
    I'll host a party at my new diggs after my house sells!

    ————————————————–

  68. k0zm0zs0ul
    June 5, 2010 | 5:07 am

    Lol.. yeah.. totally slacking. But to be fair, I've had two field trips to
    attend, one last week, one this week.. an awards ceremony for my baby bro..
    client projects that couldn't wait.. and stormy weather migraines! Plus baby
    Devin over the weekend and a couple eves during the week.. and I'm SURE
    there was something else.. oh and bf's Bday and bday party!

    So not reeeeaaallly slacking right? Just kinda sorta? :P OK fine, your
    feeds broken! Get a good night sleep, and I'm 99.9% sure it will be fixed
    tomorrow. ;) Ok, 98.9%…

  69. Kari Wolfe
    June 5, 2010 | 5:22 am

    Jean, I've been blogging off and on for a while now–I get moving and I'll post every day and then it drops off. I need to work on my backup content for the days I just get too busy :)

    I feel like I'm struggling to push that boulder up the mountain–and one day, I'll get it there :) The “friends” part… sometimes I think that's the biggie for me. I'm 1300 miles away from family (who also aren't really interested in my blog and/or writing) and I'm somewhat lonely on line–but I'm meeting new people and chatting occasionally… :) So, I'll get there. :)

    Thanks for all the encouragement! :)

  70. Anna Haller
    June 5, 2010 | 9:42 am

    Hi Jean,

    My first time on your blog and I am absolutely amazed! Your blog looks awesome and you have a very loyal readership.

    I think all bloggers experienced what you have written about in one way or another. I am in the stage of realizing not to be overwhelmed by everything that there is to do. I especially struggle with posting at the moment but like you said as time goes by then hopefully it will get easier and easier.

    I love sharing my experiences and interacting with my readers which is the best part for me. It's great to meet like minded people that share your interests and also encourage you to keep going.

    Great job on your blog and continued success to you!

    Anna

  71. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 3:19 pm

    Hi Anna. Thank you for visiting and for taking the time to comment too. I appreciate that. I was just over at your blog and you are doing amazing . . . videos, guest posting, article marketing . . . whew! I think I need a nap now :)

  72. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 3:23 pm

    Hi Kari. Finding that posting rhythm is tricky. A lot of the pros say to have several posts in reserve before starting a blog, but I don't think many of us heed that advice :) Online friends make a big, big (huge!) difference for me, and I'm sure you'll have lots of positive experiences in that regard too. Whether it's comments, emails, twitter, etc., those interactions are a big boost to the spirits!

  73. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 3:27 pm

    If there's a birthday party that must mean . . . . cake??? Ah, I can only dream as someone appears to have snuck into the house and shrunk all my clothes recently so no cake for me for a couple weeks. :(

    Your life sounds full, rich, and fun right now, so I'll cut you a break on the posting :)

    Now, how does a broken feed look? And what does one do about it? Yikes! I am a bit short on clues when it comes to broken feeds (and 90 zillion other things, but no one needs to know about that, right?)

  74. James King
    June 5, 2010 | 8:53 pm

    Blogging is a long-term process and can be time consuming, the thing is a long of online marketing courses and gurus will tell you that it can be done in 2 hours a day, at the beginning it doesn't, but when you reach that goal it'll happen but till then, you'll have to place the hours in.

    If you can plan ahead, if you can it'll help.

    Networking is very important. Comment on blogs and network often.

  75. Eric
    June 5, 2010 | 8:55 pm

    You make a great point here… That's a lie actually… You make A LOT of great points here. There's actually a lot that goes into blogging and when you first start, it can be very overwhelming. With the right help and focus and plans though, things can go much smoother.

    It's just saddening that so many new bloggers out there struggle so much when there's so much information to be obtained and learned. I guess that's the problem though… There's too much information.

  76. Scott Barron
    June 5, 2010 | 9:42 pm

    Olivia is a beauty!

  77. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 10:17 pm

    Hi Eric. I sure got hit with the 'too much information' issue, and because I was so green to this I had no way to tell a reputable source from some fly-by-night scammer. It really doesn't have to be as hard as we make it though. If a person just focuses on keeping things simple and doing the essentials at first, it's almost simple. Too bad I didn't know that :)

  78. virginbloggernotes
    June 5, 2010 | 10:24 pm

    A lot of people read books like 'The 4-Hour Work Week' and think, “Hey, that's for me! I'm going to start right now.” Then, when they see how much work is truly involved in the start-up, it's freak-out time. The beauty of sticking with it though is that you can finally see what needs to be done, what doesn't, and put it all in a workable time frame. It's still work, but it's enjoyable and manageable. Might still be a hair over that four-hour deal though :)

  79. Brandon Connell
    June 6, 2010 | 6:10 am

    Hi Jean, I find that not only does blogging get easier, but as it does you are able to focus more on the trial and error of monetization. You learn which direct ads, and affiliate promotions work.

  80. virginbloggernotes
    June 6, 2010 | 11:04 am

    True, Brandon. Some of the most successful people out there still constantly test and tweak their monetization method. It's definitely not a one-size-fits-all deal.

  81. k0zm0zs0ul
    June 6, 2010 | 1:35 pm

    Lol.. well they must have shrunk mine while they were about it! :( As to
    the broken feeds, I'm clueless there too.. the only thing I know to do if
    ever a feed is broken is use another one! (I think there are usually like 3
    different ones you can use w/ your blog. lol)

  82. Chloe Adeline
    June 6, 2010 | 3:51 pm

    I'm beginning to understand this. Thank you for putting it into words ^_^

    I especially like: “It didn’t take long though before I realized that online relationships work pretty much the same as offline ones.” Omg, it was SO intimidating thinking about making connections with other bloggers, big or small at first. I've kindof gotten to the point where I'm like “eh…if I feel like that person's cool, I can reach out to them…20,000 subscribers or not.” hehe

    Seriously Jean, I'm SO amazed by how your blog's taken off! It's inspiring : )

  83. Jamey Delta
    June 6, 2010 | 4:03 pm

    HI. How do you use Twitter efficiently? It seems to me like a mess of following and followers. Also, nice header, I read the post about the contest you won! Congrats.
    Cheers.

  84. Craig Feinberg
    June 6, 2010 | 4:03 pm

    Jean, thanks you so much for this blog post. Over the last two months I have often lost site of the ultimate goal, which is to make money on the internet. I am realizing more and more it not the “how?”, but the “why?”. The answer is you get to meet people who are in your same situation and realize you are never alone.

  85. TheInfoPreneur
    June 6, 2010 | 5:21 pm

    Hey Jean!
    great post. Man, your categories could really stand to be rearranged. ;)

    B

    kidding…i figure it might help inspire ya'.

  86. Brandon Connell
    June 6, 2010 | 9:30 pm

    Thank you Jean. My hard work is paying off with compliments like that ;)

  87. virginbloggernotes
    June 6, 2010 | 10:31 pm

    Haha, Brandon. You are so funny. You did such a great job with yours I think you should do mine too :)

  88. virginbloggernotes
    June 6, 2010 | 10:36 pm

    Hi Craig. Thanks for stopping in. Yes, the 'why' is what it's all about if we want to stay on track and enjoy our work. It's easy to lose sight of our original purpose if we lose our focus or start comparing ourselves to others. Good luck in your online endeavors!

  89. virginbloggernotes
    June 6, 2010 | 10:46 pm

    Hi Jamey. I had a hard time “getting” Twitter, but I've started having more fun with it lately. I basically just check my @'s and DMs for messages and respond to those and tweet out other peoples' posts plus some from here. My next step is to move people into lists so I'll have people from here on one list, people from a particular forum on another, writing pals on another, etc. It can seem overwhelming and rather pointless at first, but the more I learn, the more I like it. Plus, I get quite a bit of traffic from others retweeting posts, which I really appreciate. Thanks for stopping in!

  90. virginbloggernotes
    June 6, 2010 | 10:49 pm

    Hey Chloe. You should feel good about all the great comments on the header. People (including this people lol) love it. I linked to you in my resources page too so when I'm at 20,000 subscribers you'll hopefully get lots of business :) It is really cool how things are hopping (bunny talk!) around here lately. Personally, I think it's the header that's made all the difference!

  91. alexwhalley
    June 7, 2010 | 12:01 am

    Ah Jean! Once again you have come up with something unique and valuable. I really like how this post started too as I could share that same experience with you. Funnily enough it was not until I started to read the post that I too thought 'hey, I don't feel the anguish I used to!' so thanks for bringing that to my attention!
    The point about making friends is especially poignant and one thing I noticed is that like anything, the more you do it, the better you get. (better way of putting it would be to say, the more you do it, the more you actually are yourself!)
    Great Post Jean (sorry Im late coming to the party – still in the changing jobs and mindsets stage)

  92. annegalivan
    June 7, 2010 | 1:26 am

    I especially liked the “blogging is a marathon.” The one thing I have said to myself (and others) is that if I just stick it out, I will succeed because most people quit when the going gets hard.

    Nevertheless, I am a little discouraged about the lack of comments on my posts, and the number of subscribers I have acquired. Then again, I have only had my website up for a little over a month. Can you tell I am a “Type A” person?!

    I think the tech issues are a big one for most beginning bloggers, because I am guessing most of us are not IT's. My daughter is working (mostly sans pay) as my webmaster, and for her it is a learning experience as well. We are still getting technical stuff sorted out…one place that has been a big help for me is the Problogger community. I have learned to just go there and ask whatever technical question I have and at least one person will submit an answer – and it's often several people who will respond. Great people over there!

  93. virginbloggernotes
    June 7, 2010 | 2:01 am

    Hi Anne. The slow growth and lack of action in the beginning is a common point of frustration. Although I know a couple bloggers who seemed to have popularity right out of the gate, most of us are on a slower course. Thanks for sharing your experience with the Problogger forum. #1 because I'd intended to sign up already and this is a good reminder to get over there and do that and #2 because it's affordable and from all accounts a great resource for readers here to check out.

  94. virginbloggernotes
    June 7, 2010 | 3:08 am

    Ahhh, the end of anguish :) Love how you said, 'the more you do it, the more you actually are yourself.' That's been my experience too. Talking back and forth just starts feeling natural and you start getting a sense of people and who they are, what their dreams are, how you might help them, etc.

  95. Kim
    June 7, 2010 | 3:31 am

    Hi Jean,

    Seriously, what a delightful post! Ahhh, the good 'ol days… I chuckled out loud when I read, 'I about drove myself and half the world crazy' because 'my friends and family don’t get the ‘blogging thing’ either! Haha – I couldn't even get my sister to comment when all I could hear were the crickets chirping. I've since happily skyped, phoned, and exchanged emails with great people in the personal development realm.

    May I never experience a blank screen… Luckily, I have bluehost too ;)

    Love your sense of humor! Time to RT – Cheers :)

  96. virginbloggernotes
    June 7, 2010 | 12:53 pm

    Thanks for your comment and the RT, Kim! Looking back, I think it was a big plus that no one from my 'real life' commented on my posts because the lack of support drove me to mix and mingle online. I sure didn't see it that way when the crickets were chirping though :)

  97. Ms. Freeman
    June 7, 2010 | 1:26 pm

    #4 stands out for me. I have found that I am more outgoing and approachable off line ever since I've been online.

  98. virginbloggernotes
    June 7, 2010 | 1:55 pm

    Now that's interesting. I hadn't thought about how our offline relationships may actually improve because of our online communications. Hmmm. Wonder if I've changed in that regard . . .

  99. Chloe Adeline
    June 7, 2010 | 10:24 pm

    Thank Jean ^_^

    Bunny talk always!

    I think the header helps. And you've got such a great personal presence online, with so much enthusiasm and glow. That's irreplaceable!

  100. ralphcarlson
    June 8, 2010 | 2:09 am

    Wow, It is getting crowded over here in your little corner. Obviously you are providing value. Congrats!

  101. virginbloggernotes
    June 8, 2010 | 10:55 am

    Hi Ralph. The really cool part about blogs is you can have a bunch of people over but you don't have to clean house before or after :)

  102. shirls
    June 8, 2010 | 7:02 pm

    Hi Jean – I arrived here via your comment on Dave Doolin's site and was attracted by the title of this post. Looks like just the place to be: I set up my blog a few months ago but have been too scared to post. I look forward to exploring all your back numbers.

  103. virginbloggernotes
    June 8, 2010 | 10:41 pm

    Hello! Glad you found your way here.:) I think we all feel scared to post whether it's our first post or sometimes even when it's our gazillionth. Some days I think I might as well just set out an extra dinner plate for fear because it hangs around so often. In the end, the love of writing is what seems to push us past that fear though. You'll be fine. Let me know when you post and I'll come and visit :)

  104. Ricardo Bueno
    June 9, 2010 | 11:01 am

    Definitely in agreement with all of your points listed above! Everything about writing has gotten easier. The amount of time that it takes to write a post has gotten easier (it used to take much longer). The more you do it, the easier it gets (kinda like exercise really).

  105. virginbloggernotes
    June 9, 2010 | 2:52 pm

    Hi Ricardo. It really is like exercise. Everything seems difficult and painful when we first begin, but if we just keep practicing, those writing (and promoting) muscles keep getting stronger.

  106. car lease calculator
    June 10, 2010 | 7:16 am

    #6 is arguably the most important. I find that when you promote though, you need to have a specific strategy that isn't too aggressive to make you come across as a spammer. Promote but with the mindset of adding value.

  107. virginbloggernotes
    June 10, 2010 | 12:26 pm

    Adding value makes all the difference in our promotional efforts. Let people see that we have something they may want to check out for themselves rather than making them feel like we're forcing things on them. There's a fine line there, but it gets easier to see it with practice.

  108. Stan Young
    July 21, 2010 | 8:54 pm

    Hi Jean What an excellent post! This list that you have created makes me feel so much better about what I am doing. New to the blogging, social media scene I have no idea what I am doing.If you started from nothing and now have a big following maybe I can do it too. My wife and friends think I am nuts and dont understand what I am doing. Well I dont know what I am doing either but I know I have learnt heaps in a short space of time. Learning how to write, your blog has given me a good example of how its done. Thank you
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    • Jean Sarauer
      July 22, 2010 | 6:38 am

      Thank you, Stan. There were plenty of people who thought I was nuts for doing this too. I was one of them :) Seriously though, the learning curve is steep, but this all truly does get easier if you just hang in there!

  109. Rainbow
    July 24, 2010 | 5:49 pm

    Wow! This is what I really love about the web. There comes a time when you don’t even have to google to find an answer to your questions. They come up all by themselves.
    I totally but totally relate to EVERYTHING you have written so far. (Thats another thing I love about the web: same thoughts from people thousands of miles apart!)
    Thanks

    • Jean Sarauer
      July 24, 2010 | 6:50 pm

      Hello Rainbow. I love the shared sense of connection too. It’s one of my favorite things about blogging. So glad you found your way here!

  110. Bob Hayles
    August 1, 2010 | 5:47 pm

    Well…I see I’m not the only one who found you via Doolin…LOL…his publication of BPE is gonna make a lot of blog traffic pick up…and I don’t mean by doing the BPE thingy…

    I like your 6 items. Combine them with the first 10 slides in BPE and one is well on the way.

    I like your place here…I’ll be back. In the meantime, you can find out all you want to know about yurts, homesteading, cooking, politics (shudder, I know) over at my place…

    Bob
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    • Jean Sarauer
      August 2, 2010 | 8:49 am

      Hello, Bob. Well doggone it, I’m going to have to get a copy of BPE now! I’m so glad you stopped in and do hope you come back. The more the merrier. Now, I’m off to find out about those yurts.

  111. Meri Walker
    August 14, 2010 | 11:44 am

    Jean, I’ve been blogging in a pretty scattered way for a couple of years. Finally getting serious. I so appreciate the simple wisdom of this post and your approach to truth-telling in this arena!

    Rave on, sister…I’ll be listening!
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  112. farouk
    August 14, 2010 | 7:25 pm

    that’s so true, currently everything turned into a routine for me, i do the same exact tasks every day
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    • Jean Sarauer
      August 15, 2010 | 5:20 pm

      Glad to hear things are getting easier for you too, Farouk. I still have plenty of challenges, but it’s amazing how many things are much easier now.
      Jean Sarauer recently posted..How to Get Off the Meltdown City Express

  113. Elaine Huckabay
    August 16, 2010 | 1:09 pm

    Hello! I have a question for you. I am in the beginning stages of blogging. I would like a logo created and a basic theme/layout for my content. I am struggling greatly with this aspect – so much that I am frozen in indecision/inaction. Who can I contact to get these services? Blogging is just a hobby of mine, so I don’t want to spend more than $200.

    • Jean Sarauer
      August 16, 2010 | 1:29 pm

      Hi Elaine. Have you considered using one of the many free themes? I thought about that myself but there were too many options for me!

      If you definitely want something personal, I’ve heard some of the pros say that http://99designs.com/ is a great place to get work done at the price that works for you.

      I won my header design so I got lucky :)

  114. Aaron
    August 19, 2010 | 12:48 am

    I sure can relate to Ricardo’s analogy of blogging and exercising. Blogging is beginning to get easier for me and I’ll start focusing on the steps Jean has listed, especially time management and prioritizing. Hopefully I’ll learn more and more from you and your blogging tactics. Thanks Jean for sharing your thoughts on here. I look forward to checking out more of your blogs.
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    • Jean Sarauer
      August 19, 2010 | 11:27 am

      Thanks for stopping by, Aaron. I still get tripped up with time management–I was doing really well but then the blog started growing and I had some other good things happen career wise and I’ve had to resort and reorder a lot of things to find balance. Live and learn :)

  115. Aaron
    August 19, 2010 | 1:14 pm

    Hey Jean,

    Thanks for your reply and for all your blogs. It’s a great resource center for so many Bloggers and anyone who’s serious about building a substantial on-line business. Glad to hear your career is continuing to move in the right direction. You are very inspiring!
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  116. tripplakeantique
    September 16, 2010 | 5:40 pm

    Love this post. I just started blogging and every time I post I have a terrifying ” this is stupid and no one will want to read it” feeling that just overwhelms for about 5 seconds. I hope that feeling disappears soon because I really love blogging and am anxious to learn.

    • Jean Sarauer
      September 16, 2010 | 6:05 pm

      Congrats on starting your blog! That’s a big step and worthy of some applause. If you’re like most bloggers, that feeling will come and go and then come back again :) I think the difference is that rather than being paralyzing or overwhelming, it just becomes something we recognize and learn to live with. Here’s to your success!