When I first started blogging, what I knew about comment systems couldn’t fill a hummingbird’s beak. I made my decision on a comment system, as well as most other things blogging-related, by listening to those who had already blazed a trail.
So, when David Risley spoke highly of the Disqus comment system, that was all the incentive I needed to install it on my brand-new blog. Sad to say, I didn’t take any time at all to research whether or not Disqus was the right system for me or my readers. Okay, technically, I didn’t have any readers, but that’s beside the point 
As it turned out, Dave was right about Disqus being a great system for blog owners. It was super-easy to install and set up, plus it had swanky features like multi-level threaded comments and the ability to track my comments on other blogs.
I had a bit of a crush on it, actually, and before long I was professing my love for Disqus all over the internet.
But then, as happens frequently when one doesn’t look before leaping into a relationship, I saw another side to Disqus.
It started with an age-old relationship problem–communication issues. Early on in our relationship, Disqus had notified me by email whenever a new comment was posted. But now, out-of-the-blue, there were no no incoming emails alerting me to the stack of comments piling up on the blog.
Clearly, the honeymoon was over.
Still, in all fairness to Disqus, they soon set things right, and before long, things were back to normal between us.
“See?” I reassured myself. “It was just a fluke. A little glitch.”
But then it happened again.
And again.
Still, every time the email notification system went down, Disqus got it back on track that same day. I could live with that.
The trouble was, by now I’d fallen for someone else.
It all started when I was out and about on my normal blog commenting routine. I started seeing other comment systems–systems I hadn’t known existed when I started blogging–and one in particular caught my eye and captured my heart. I found when I left a comment on a CommentLuv blog, that new visitors were drawn to my blog by the title of my last post displayed beneath my comment.
Easy traffic.
What’s not to love about that?
Of course I felt like spit for not offering CommentLuv myself, especially when so many readers had already hinted we’d make a great couple. Still, I felt loyal to Disqus since it was my first comment system. Plus, it was good to me overall, and the thought of breaking up and maybe losing comments in the process wasn’t a happy one.
So I stayed.
But then it happened. The unforgivable blogging relationship sin.
Disqus came between me and my readers.
I started getting more and more emails from regular commenters letting me know that Disqus wasn’t letting their comments through. Thanks to folks like Karen Ruby, John Sherry, and Alex Whalley, I learned the truth.
And the truth set my heart free. I said goodbye to Disqus and started a new life with CommentLuv.
Now, I’m not entering this relationship blindly. I’m well aware of CommentLuv’s flaws, like the potential for increased spam (hasn’t happened yet) and the extra plug-ins required for things like threaded comments that come standard with Disqus.
Still, I’m so happy to be with CommentLuv. So many in my family here have already said they’re thrilled we’re together, and Comment Luv treats everyone I care for so well by by displaying the title of their last luscious post beneath their comment.
Call me a hopeless romantic, but my heart belongs to CommentLuv.
Your turn. What’s your favorite comment system.
Hi Jean,
Yes, it got quite frustrating trying to comment on your blog with Disqus to find it was down or acting wonky. I’m glad that you made the switch. CommentLuv isn’t perfect (what is), but it’s so much better. I’m glad that you made the switch
I quite like seeing articles other people have written using CommentLuv – there are so real gems that I wouldn’t have been exposed to if it weren’t for it.
Karen
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I’m so glad you told me when it acted up because that finally spurred me into making the change. Hope you have a great weekend, Karen!
Disqus has some cool features, like single-logon, but overall I prefer the combination of WordPress + CommentLuv. I think this is what I will use on my new blog too.
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I love the appearance of the Disqus system in terms of how the comments lay out on the page. It’s got a lot going for it if only it would work right
Hi Jean,
.But it is nice to know that I seem to have stumbled opon the right partner
I know zilch about comment systems, I know more now I have read your post. Using comment love was more like a blind date for me
Vince
Well, zilch about sums up what I knew too, Vince
I’m glad things worked out on your blind date!
Hey Jean,
Default comment system is much better then disquis.
Disquis takes so much time for loading (at least for me)…!!
Anyways, I’m glad that you switched to default comment system.
~Dev
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Yes, that’s another thing that was a problem – the loading time. Readers mentioned that, plus I noticed it too.
Ah, I noticed the change a little while ago. What I noticed with disqus lately is that when I log in to comment, I have to reload the page to be able to leave one. Strange.
Comment luv is something I am seeing a lot more these day, and I do believe will be making a debut on my site this weekend when I sit down to hammer out some design.
Cheers
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I think CommentLuv would be a great addition to your site, Joshua. I love seeing those post title’s above people’s comments. They just lure me right in. As a matter of fact, your title is luring me into your spider web right now.
Jean,
Thank you for this post. I had installed CommentLuv on my blog and then switched to Disqus not being aware of the flaws or disadvantages of each system. After reading your post, I decided to keep my CommentLuv active and deleted the Disqus one.
Thank you again, Claudio
Hi Claudio. Blogging is one big experiment. I guess I’m glad I tried Disqus so at least I know what it’s about and won’t be lured in that direction again.
Thank you Jean. Looking forward to reading more of your blog.
Regards, Claudio
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Hi Jean!
I love your post! I was just thinking about switching back to Disqus, but CommentLuv wouldn’t let me.
I’m sticking with my first love. CommentLuv along with WP commenting system. It is easier and I haven’t had any problems so far.
Take care!
-Evelyn
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Hi Evelyn. I’m glad CommentLuv refused to let you go
Those titles are such a draw. Even here, when I’m replying to comments, the titles suck me in 
Well I must say this is a real eye opener. I had no idea there were so many issues with Disqus.
I actually use to use it in the days before my tragic directory crash. But after I switched to WP, I decided that the included comment system was just fine and proceeded to add CommentLuv lickety split, to make it even better!
And you get away from my CommentLuv-er you hussey! Oh never mind I don’t mean it. I think there is enough of him to go around. LOL
Besides, I’m very fond of you too.
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Oh my, I didn’t know about that crash. Yikes!
Yeah, I am a bit of a hussy when it comes to CommentLuv
I tried switching my blog from b2evolution blogging platform to WP and it wasn’t pretty. In the mayhem that ensued, I wiped out my directory on my server.
Apparently there is not easy way to switch from B2 to WP and I ended up having to restore from xml files. By hand, one post at a time.
There are still several posts I need to add. I thought I would completely lose my Google page rank. But I didn’t, at least not completely. It’s been, shall we say, a little challenging?
I’ve been trying to claw my way back since March. It hasn’t been easy.
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Oh my goodness! I give you SO much credit for continuing to work through what must have been incredibly frustrating and discouraging. I think you scared my system just talking about this because I found this reply in the spam folder
My favorite is WP default commenting system because it does not:
Take ages to load with javascriptAllows better customization
Only reason for me to hate it would be the repeated emails it was sending me!
P.S.Jean, I am seeing 2 “Notify me of followup comments via e-mail” options! Something you might want to look in!
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Ishan, CommentLuv luvved you so much it could not help but pester you repeatedly. Hmmm, I’ll email Arvind and see if he can see taht duplicate subscribe option. It only shows up once on my screen. First I have to come over to your site and find out how many hats I’m wearing
Jean,
I agree Comment Luv is much easier than Disqus. I had no idea about these things just 6 short months ago either. We should be patting ourselves on the back for the steep learning curve we’ve traversed!!
MY comment luv hasn’t been luving be back lately though – it keeps saying I have no recent posts to show when I leave comments….don’t know what that’s about. I’ll have to find some time to investigate.
Isn’t it amazing how much we learn in a few short months, Angela. Sometimes I’m amazed my head has not flown off
Yes, I see your title is missing here. I had that happen once but don’t recall how I fixed it.
Hi Jean & Angela,
I poked my nose in here because I seem to remember someone saying that if you untick, and retick the comment love radio button it fixes the problem…worth a try anyway. I just put Comment Love on a site I’m about to go live with..my first, so I enjoyed the post & comments, good timing…humming birds beak…classic.
Thanks
Neil
Glad you poked your nose in
Good luck with your new site!
Hi Jean,
I still didn’t know about your blog when you were using Disqus, so I didn’t experience the problems you mention, actually, I didn’t know about Disqus at all (but I’m no an expert in blogging anyway). Happy to see you so well in your new relationship!
CommentLuv is great to promote interaction between bloggers and so far no problems with it, so my guess is that most people will be using it in their blogs.
Raul
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It does seem like more people are making the switch all the time. It’s a great resource for readers too. They can look at comments and find all sorts of other interesting blogs to check out.
Hi Jean, funny you should write this post – today I am working on a strange Commentluv problem I have and we’ll see if I solved it but basically, CommentLuv does not show my latest post anywhere. Not to get technical on you (or heavens forbid, come between you and CommentLuv
), but I have validated my feed on feedburner & gone through the troubleshooting steps with CommentLuv and just hope that this time it works. If not, I shall keep trying. I have enabled neither Disqus nor CommentLuv on my posts but I’d LOVE to have CommentLuv tell others about my latest post. Honest, I did not do a thing to CommentLuv for treating me like this but let me click Submit and see if it works this time!? Fingers crossed!
…Few seconds later….
Ok so I get the error below. In the WebSite URL, I am going to try to put my FEED link instead of my URL, is that the trick? That seems to do it!!! But then it will send people over to my feed and not the blog…Hmmm. HELP!
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Farnoosh, at long last I get to read your reply now that I have plucked it from the clutches of the spam folder. I am sorry ComentLuv is treating you poorly and hope they get the issue resolved soon!
I’m glad to see CommentLuv on the blogs I read. At work we are mandated to use IE and just updated (HA!) to IE 7. While that solved a lot of problems we were having, I still can’t post comments to any site that runs Disqus. It bums me out! (BOO!)
Happy to see the change on your blog and elsewhere, I hope.
Lisa – that’s really interesting about not being able to post on Disqus after that ‘upgrade.’ I know what you mean about being bummed when you can’t leave a comment. That’s how I feel when I blocked out by something too
Glad you fell in love, Jean. Sounds like a match made in heaven!
I fell for CommentLuv the same way, by seeing traffic come in via the titles on my comments on other blogs — and also by finding some super cool blog posts just by following my own innate curiosity. In fact, I’m not 100% sure, but I think I may have first come to Virgin Blogger Notes via that route.
Hi Meredith. Yeah, it’s love
I know, those post titles are addicting! But that shows the beauty of Comment Luv.
I’m in love with CommentLuv too!
I actually started out with Disqus as well – didn’t last too long…. 
I think it’s interesting to see how we evolve (and our blogs evolve) as we learn more, find new ways of doing things, new plugins, and get feedback from others on what works for them. I love this evolution process!
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I know exactly what you mean, Jess. What fits us like a glove one day we end up outgrowing down the road. I think I learn as much about myself in this process as I do about blogging. Thanks for stopping in!
Hi Jean, I’m glad you made the switch. What I don’t like about Disqus is that every time I leave a comment on someone’s blog, I get a notification in my email that I end up deleting because it’s the exact same comment I put on the blogger’s blog. I also think I tried not to subscribe to the comments on that system but it kept doing it anyway. It’s nice that you got some feedback from people from your readers including Karen Ruby. Thanks for this update!
Well, that would be annoying! I normally just get the post author’s reply to my comment in email, which I really appreciate.
Yeah, Karen’s been super-helpful at giving me good feedback. She’s a great person with a great blog.
I love commentluv and use it on my blog! After trying out many plug-ins and crashing systems to Zenguy’s and Krissoft web design’s nightmare (from me), I have learned a few things. CommentLuv is not perfect but it is best and free plug in out there right now.
I also have nested comments and reply to each comment, which helps a lot to visualize and see each replies very well.
The nesting is working out well here too. I was wondering how it would go, but Arvind tinkered with things and got them working just right. He is a genius
Yes, Arvind is great! He also gave me tips on how the blog look should look like via email, just because he is nice! I agree he is genius and kind!
Nesting comments are great
Hey Jean,
“what I knew about comment systems couldn’t fill a hummingbird’s beak.”
Hahahah – I love your metaphors and expressions!
I did not realise that commentluv was a system, I thought it was just a plug in, and I use it and I don’t need extra plugins to enable threaded comments so I am confused there, but that is beside the point. You changed comments systems to a better one and somehow managed to make an awesomely entertaining (and eloquent I might add) post!
Love it!
Thanks for the mention btw
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Hi Alex. You’re right that technically it’s just a plug-in. I just get lazy and call it a system when I talk for comparison purposes. I had to go with a threaded comments plug-in to get them to nest how I wanted. Supposedly I can go 10 deep now in a conversation. Haven’t tried that out yet
There’s a first time for everything…
That’s three
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Four!
Hi Jean,
Being totally clueless about the added extras on blogs, up until a few months ago, (apart from the writing content!) I was lured in by the cute little hearts at the end of comments on some of the sites I visited.
I blindly began a relationship with CommentLuv and to date I am happy to report it has been a match made in heaven.
Like Angela Artemis, my own blog posts were not showing when I left comments, at first, but that has been rectified by including the http:// when typing in my website name with the reply.
Now the Luv is a two-way street, just as it should be.
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I’m so glad you’re relationship with CommentLuv has been going well. I’ll make sure Angela gets that tip! Thanks for passing it on for her and anyone else who is having issues.
I have use Disqus and Intense Debate before and both comment system are great, but one thing I do not like is having too many option seems to sometime confuse new readers and even me.
I rather have a empty comment box then having too many fancy stuff that just doesn’t seem to be really unique to me.
Well about comment Luv, I have use it since it was created and had never de-activate this plugin since.
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I had quite a few readers mention they were having problems registering to use Disqus. The less obstacles we can place between people and their comments, the better! Glad to hear CommentLuv is still working out well for you.
I too got Disqus without doing my homework. It was the only comment-management program I’d heard of, so the decision was a no-brained. Luckily, I haven’t had any of the problems that you’ve described, but in all fairness, I do not get the traffic or amount of comments that you do, so that may have something to do with it.
I do like the fact that CommentLuv helps with promoting your blog by listing your most recent post, but unless I have problems, I don’t see myself going anywhere else. However, I’m glad that, if I were to have some problems, I now know of an alternative.
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Jake, I replied to your comment but put it in the wrong spot so look down below. I should not be allowed on the computer after 10 p.m. haha.
Jean – I tried both Disqus and IntenseDebate before settling on the default comment system. I installed CommentLuv, KeywordLuv, Twitterlink, Tweetbacks, Comment Notifier and a thank you page, and with all of that, it’s about the best comment system I can think of.
I’m very happy with it.
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Hi Tia. I’m going to have to talk with you because I don’t even know what a Tweetback plug in would do. This learning curve never seems to flatten out for me
Well, one thing I know for sure, Jake. I may have broken up with Disqus, but we’re still civil to each other so I’ll keep visiting you and commenting even if it means Disqus and I must be in the same area
oh my lord, thanks for this post. i have never had a problem using disqus when visiting other blogs, so it never occurred to me that maybe others would have a problem with mine. i just switched to commentluv, and wow that was easy. i’ve noticed that some other blogs i read on a regular had switched, but didn’t know what the advantages were until i read your post. thanks again, great info!
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I’ve had problems on a few Disqus blogs myself with slow loading or the comment box not showing. It’s just one of those “glitchy” things that happens, and I’m sure the folks at Disqus will keep improving things. I’m sure they want to provide a top-quality product. But, without that little CommentLuv title link, they just can’t compete . . .
Hi Jean
You have to make it as easy as possible for people to comment – jumping through hoops doesn’t fit the bill.
Autocomplete name, email and website and then add your comment – quick and easy.
As for CommentLuv – I think it’s brilliant. Gives your commenters a little reward, a small thank you for leaving a comment.
Good call Jean.
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Hi Keith. You just hit on the deepest truth of why I love CommentLuv. It resonates with my spirit and values. I want to boost people up in this community, and CommentLuv does that beautifully.
I luv commentluv. Was lucky enough to come across it around the same time I started my blog and started a relationship with it straight away. It has never let me down, misinformed me, or been difficult to deal with. No communication issues, very low maintenance, not demanding of my time or other resources, and seems to attract others to share their thoughts and conversations with me. Disqus gets on my nerves whenever I run into it. Try to avoid having to get past it unless it’s acting as doorman at a party with lots of other cool people.
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Hi Karen. You truly were lucky to find CommentLuv right away. I’ll try not to be too jealous
Glad to hear it’s been treating you well!
Third time is a charm. I think CommentLuv is finally working now. It shows that it returned a post and I think this comment will show up – I am sorry the others were lost in the shuffle, Jean. I think we are back in business and I may start liking CommentLuv after all!!!
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Well, the third time was not the charm, was it?
For those who may have been following along . . . Farnoosh’s comments have been ending up in the spam folders of those who use CommentLuv. That’s where this one was, too. She’s working with CommentLuv to get things set right, but it’s a real puzzler as to why this keeps happening?!? Hang in there, Farnoosh. CommentLuv really does luv you, as do the rest of us.
I’ve never heard of either of those systems! I’m a simple girl, with barely any techie experience at all. I think it’s a positive sign that my computer doesn’t fall apart when I use it!
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Hi Julie. Don’t feel bad. I hadn’t heard of these things either when I started. Just take your time and be smarter than me by looking before you leap into anything
Very nice article! I hadn’t heard of discus until recently. After reading your (very amusing) article I’m glad I chose comment luv for my blog too.
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Hi Heather. Glad to hear you’re a happy CommenLuv user
Jean, Comment Luv’s Andy Bailey was very quick to respond and “unban” prolific living (wooh!! wiping sweat
) – so now my lastest post is showing up and let’s cross fingers that this comment does not go to spam folder because whatever it was that was happening, since you trained your spam catcher (are you using Akismet?) – then it will know not to treat future comments from same user the same…
So with crossed fingers and lots of blog luv, Jean!
Here we go!!!
Farnoosh
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Farnoosh, you showed up here and not in spam! Hooray!!! I do use Akismet. Wonder why it would think you were spam??? I think Akismet wants you all to itself
I’m so glad the bugs seem to be worked out now. Here’s to trouble-free chats!
Jean, I had no idea that commentluv was cheating on me. Oh well, I’m okay with sharing if you are. Weird that my Akismet recently chucked Farnoosh into the spam bin too. Hmm. Anyway, I love commentluv too!
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There’s enough CommentLuv to handle both of us and then some
Poor Farnoosh. She could write a post about the power of perseverance called, “Reporting Live From the Spam Bin.”
Too funny – well let’s see how this one works. I think the last one worked fine, Jean, and I have been begging everyone to take me out of the ‘spam’ bin where none of us belong…..You two crack me up, and I can’t help but smile at such a small problem in such a grand life
!
Here we go! Let’s see if this makes it through!
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Ah, here you are right away, my friend! No more picking bits of spam out of your hair
Hi Jean,
I’ve never tried Discus but use CommentLuv as well. However I am still looking for a good plugin that will keep track of all blogs I leave comments on.
Louis
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Hi Louis. I wonder if there is a plug-in for that. There is one for just about everything it seems, so if there isn’t one yet, there likely will be soon!
a valentines post for comment luv
I’m a fan of comment luv, I can’t remember how I learned about it originally but I like having it for my comment section it makes it easy to click over to another blog and read their latest post.
Glad you found a happy relationship with comment luv
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Yes, that easy accessibility to other posts is a treat. Sometimes too much of one in my case. It’s a wonder I get anything done other than reading blogs
Thanks for a humorous side to all this comment stuff. I am a new blogger (8 weeks now) and I am still floundering around like a fish out of water. I have installed commentluv on my site but I have yet to figure out how or even if it is working the way it is supposed to. One day I will understand the madness of this all.
How well I remember that floundering feeling. Things do start coming together and making sense eventually though, thank goodness. This sort of thing (plug-in talk) all felt like speaking a foreign language to me when I started out, so I feel your pain!
Jean you bring humour into a tricky subject and make learning fun.Thank you
Could you do something similar about “no follow” and back links? Trying to understand them is not making me giggle.
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Hi Marion. Nofollow and backlinking still make me twitchy. I really do try to fully understand these things, but so far have had no luck with it despite considerable reading. My brain needs a plug-in!
Hi Jean,
CommentLuv is the only thing I’ve used and I am an old fashion gal so I’m sticking with CommentLuv. I’ve had a great relationship so far with it and have no complaints. I especially like the fact that once you register on their site when you go and post comments on other peoples blogs you could choose which post title you would like to show. I stick to my latest one but at least they give you that option.
Glad you found a new luv and I’m pretty sure you’re going to enjoy it like I have.
Anna
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Hi Anna. Being old fashioned is good if it’s kept you with CommentLuv
Yes, I like that ‘choose your title’ option too. I haven’ used it either, but could see it will come in handy when I get more organized with my blog commenting activities. If I ever do 
I’m debating whether or not to switch from Disqus to CommentLuv. The biggest incentive is, obviously, the fact that each comment shows your latest post title beneath it. It’s also prettier
If I switch over though, will my previous comments be safe? And what plugins do I need to install to allow threaded comments? Does CL email you with new comments? Because I’m with you – sick and tired of not being notified about new comments. I take pride in responding almost immediately to new comments and I hate have to check – gasp! – my site for new notes… Anyway, would love more details on CommentLuv as I’m thinking I might dumb Disqus…
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Hi Marian. Your comments should be safe because they’re still in WordPress. I didn’t lose any, but the pre-CommentLuv comments don’t look pretty–the multi-level discussions got broken up. I’m using ‘WP Thread Comments’ plugin and have it set to ’10 levels.’ And yes, the emails come when there’s a new comment or pingback. Just let me know if you have any more questions.
Disqus was a jealous ex-lover who wanted you to stay where you were and not let us new friends speak to you. Glad it got dumped! You want real love and it seems your new comment friend just luvs hearing from everyone. Message here; if something doesn’t work for you don’t be afraid to start a new, more helpful relationship. Now we can talk to our hearts content Jean!! Mwah x
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I’m glad you went behind Disqus’ back and told me what what was going on, John. It deserved to be shown the door for that!
It sounds like you’ve fall for the right one for the right reasons, flaws and all. It’s always about looking at both sides of the producer and user equation.
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Hi JD. Yes, seeing all sides is important in everything, isn’t it. That’s what’s hard about being new–you really don’t even know what you’re looking for yet.
Hello, I’m stopping by from your mention at Pen and Prosper!
I’m a pretty new blogger and I have loved comment luv since I first saw it! It’s a great tool and I love having it on my site and I love it when others have it on theirs!
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Hi Stacy. Glad you found your way here! I’m glad to hear you’re a happy CommentLuv user! And I see from your title that your taking the Problogger 31-Day Challenge. Good for you! I intend to do that at some point down the line too. My schedule is nuts right now or I’d go through it with you.
I adore CommentLuv. And, you are really funny:).
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Hi Lisa. I do have trouble being serious for more than 25 minutes at a time
Hey Jean
Nice post love the the way you painted the picture.
Only a new person to blogging so I dont have any experience with Disqus I have been with commentluv from day one and havent had any problems.
Look forward to reading more of your blogs Thanks
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Hi Stan. Why are so many new bloggers so much smarter than what I was when I started out?
Oh well, I guess I have to live and learn the hard way for entertainment purposes 
Thanks for stopping in!
What a great move and I can see your romance blossoming with commentluv. I’ve never used Disqus because I wanted to make it easier for my readers to leave a comment and I felt that many non Disqus users wouldn’t comment because they didn’t want to go through the hassles of joining. I know that there’s many a post that I would have commented on but didn’t because they used Disqus.
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Hi Sire. I’ve heard quite a few folks say they avoid commenting on Disqus blogs. I still comment on them but sure do miss seeing that nice title link!
Definitely agree that CommentLuv is the way to go! I only know about Disqus from a reader perspective, and I found it a little cumbersome, having to sign up and stuff. But I made excuses for it just like you did…when it came time to install a system of my own, though, CommentLuv had my heart. I want to see what the latest posts are! Plus it’s nice to leave mine
I did have trouble with it one time though. Somehow I got banned–took me some time to realize what the problem was and why my recent posts weren’t going up. Don’t know why/how that happened. Probably hit something weird when I was playing around on the CommentLuv site. Easy fix, though.
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Oh my goodness–banned from CommentLuv? That is too horrible to contemplate! I’ve been loving your FB profile pics by the way
LOL Thanks. Stay posted
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I too was seduced by the charms of Disqus, but all too soon the truth was revealed and the honeymoon period was over… so like the fickle little tart that I am, I dallied with Intense debate (almost identical problems: won’t let my readers comment!), am currently playing about with Echo (but shudder at the thought at paying them)and am about to give it all up and go back to good old fashioned basics with the CommentLuv my readers adored…
Rather terribly I have lost an awful lot of potential commenters during this rather ludicrous experiment in comment-box adultery and there is a lot of work to be done to fix the resulting trauma to BrocanteHome…
But I’m on it, bless my cotton socks and thrilled to discover someone else as easily seduced as I…
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Hi Alison. My goodness, you are quite the tart
Ah well, some of us just have to get these dalliances out of the way before we’re ready to settle down.
I have seen other bloggers bounce between Disqus and IntenseDebate and some have mixed success with either. They do offer convenience, but in the end I chose basic WordPress with CommentLuv as well for my own system. I really enjoy knowing what latest articles my commenters have written and I will often read the comments on other sites and visit a catchy title of interest.
One question, why are there 2 check boxes under leaving a comment that say “Notify me of FollowUp comments via email” and “Notify me of Follow-up comments via email”?
Shouldn’t one of those be notify me of comment replies via email?
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Hi Justin. Well, I thought I had that pesky double ‘subscribe’ issue fixed. It only shows up once on my screen after the fix so you surprised me when you said you were seeing it twice. I’ve unchecked a box in the settings, but now maybe I’ve eliminated it entirely? I’ll find out when someone lets me know
I love Comment Luv as well!
Yeah, it’s a keeper, Tess
Early on I found it difficult to post comments on disqus enabled blogs. It always says I have to change my browser preferences to accept cookies, which is an error. My browser already accepts cookies. I found out by accident that I could post comments anyway even though it looked like I couldn’t, but most readers would probably be scared off. I’ve had few problems with commentluv so I’m very glad it exists. Once though my blogposts wouldn’t show up. It took some time but I finally was able to resolve the issue. (I had to “un-ban” my site url. No explanation, but hey, it worked.)
On related subject Jean, what plugin do you use for followup comments via e-mail?
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Hi Linda. I’ve heard of three people now who have had the ‘ban’ thing happen. It sounds like CommentLuv has an over-aggressive bodyguard!
I’m using the ‘Subscribe to Comments’ plugin. Not sure how well it’s working though . . . I’ve had an issue with a double ‘subscribe’ message showing up for readers (I only see one) so am tinkering with that.
Hi Jean,
Cute story! You’ve convinced me to switch to CommentLuv! I’ve been loving it on other people’s sites, but haven’t made the switch myself!
Thanks!
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I hope you and CommentLuv have a long and happy relationship, Lynn. I just saw your post title – I’ve been living without t.v. for awhile now and loving it
Great story Jean – so glad it all worked out for you!
Still waiting to get it sorted on my blog:-)
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Thanks, Arvind. You’re going to be so busy now that there won’t be much time for tinkering with it!
As a beginner, I’m always searching for bigger, better, more, so I’ll give this a shot! Thanks for sharing.
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Hi Gina. Just be sure to go slow and test the waters as you search for ways to ramp up your blogging. There’s lots of proof of satisfied folks out here with CommentLuv, so you’re safe on that
That’s funny! I’m still using Disqus as my comment system. I use it on all of my blog and all of blogs that I set it (I recommend it to others). Though I do have to admit that when I read a blog such as this one, I do love that I can skim through people’s comments and see their **most recent post**. It’s a great feature! And one that I’m sad to say Disqus doesn’t really have (at least not that I’m aware of).
In either case, I’m just not ready to move just yet. But man do I like the CommentLuv features…
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It’s too bad Disqus and CommentLuv can’t work together because I know a lot of people who really like Disqus. I used to be one of them
I say stick with whatever works best for you! But then again, those little titles are awfully nice 
Thanks for stopping in, Ricardo. I’m behind on my visiting due to a heavy work load but will be back to see you on your blog soon I hope.
This is really a great article. I am glad that you are sharing it with us.
Thanks, Mia. I appreciate you stopping by.
I’m newbie, want to say thanks for this great article, it’s opened my eyes
You’re welcome, John. Good luck with your blogging!
I have been using Disqus and now planning to end up because these days my inbox is flooded with notification for all the spam comments. Come on! I don’t want to be notified about spam comments! I contacted Disqus personnel but they didn’t gave me any ray of hope (although they replied like that
).
Let’s see what I do.
Hi Sajib. Now that would be annoying! I don’t recall that happening to me when I had Disqus. That would have made it easier for me to leave earlier!
Beautiful love story. You are definitely a hopeless romantic. It’s not only you but many bloggers has fallen in love with comment love. Seems It’s time for me to fall as well.
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Yes, Commentluv is becoming more and more popular each day. I hope you give it a try.
Hi, Before I had a thought that of moving to Disque plug-in, but finally I changed my mind and I moved to commentluv. What makes me impressed is it improve traffic to blog. Thanks for sharing about pros and cons about Disque…
Thanks & Regards
Naresh
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Easily, the article is actually topic on HTML I mean( html tools ) related issue. CommentLuv plugin also a best tool for wordpress.
I want to thank the blogger very much not only for this post but also for his all previous efforts.
Thanks guys.
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I officially killed Disqus today. Bring on the luv! Hoping things will improve with no barrier. Thanks for the follow luv!
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I agree that commentluv rocks. In addition, I use keywordluv, dofollow, top commentators, and to keep the spam out, Akismet and Cookies for Comments. Cookies for Comments is especially cool, because it keeps automated spam out. SEO super comments is another great comment plugin, because it creates a new page for every comment, which keeps the number of outgoing links per page down. Unfortunately I couldn’t get it to work together with commentluv and another plugin, though.
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I’m a newbie in blogging and I’m glad that I started right with Commentluv plugin. Commentluv has been so good to me. It helps my posts get the backlinks it needed and the traffic on my sites are better. Thank to Commentluv!!!
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Thank you for this publish. I had installed CommentLuv on my blog and then switched to Disqus not becoming aware in the flaws or disadvantages of every method. After studying your post, I decided to keep my CommentLuv lively and deleted the Disqus one.
I’ve been debating on commentluv but finally installed it on one of my blogs the other day. Just waiting to see if I get spammed from it. I am hopeful it will remain spam free. We’ll see how it goes. I never really considered Disqus!
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Hi! I’ve been using CommentLuv for a long time and so far I have not encountered any problems with it so I’ll stick with it.
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A very quirky article. I’m in love with commentluv tooo. I’m not sure how much more traffic it creates but I keep right on with my comment luv. I do luv it when the title of my latest article pops up. Thanks for sharing.
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Mary,
Do you still feel happy with your decision to switch to CommentLuv?
I have been having this same debate for some time now and I’m starting to shade towards CommentLuv but I have not been completely swung yet.
Think Post definitely helped though.
Thanks,
Ryan H.
Comment Luv is great.
Excellent post thanks
Well I am trying to decide between the disqus, intensedebat and Cumluv + WP… I will test all three ..and then there is Facebook commenting system to consider also… arrrrgh.. choice.. thanks for the post anyway.
I have to say that when I’m commenting on blogs I don’t really like disqus and I much prefer commentluv. I have it on my own blog and I find it works well.
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