14 Tips to Turn Bloggers Into Friends

A guest post by Tess Marshall of www.TheBoldLife.com

My second blogging birthday is coming up in three months. Over the last 21 months I’ve made both acquaintances and solid friendships.

Blogging can be time consuming and difficult. There’s a big learning curve. Yet when we’re brave enough to connect and generous enough to serve, the rewards are great and the friends…sweet!

The following tips have helped me get where I am today.

“Strangers are simply friends you haven’t met yet.” -unknown

1. Genuine Interest

When I discover a fantastic blog I love it’s like finding a buried treasure. I read the About page, sign up for the RSS and return regularly to read and leave comments. If there’s a synergy, I want to connect and know you better.

Music legend, Robert Owens was once asked: What advice do you have for an aspiring artist?

He stated: “Be yourself and give you to the world.”

2. Be Yourself

Make your comments interesting, meaningful and if appropriate, personal. Show your personality. My comments are rarely long but they’re direct and meaningful. I’ve received personal notes thanking me for my comments.

“Being a good friend and having a good friend can enrich our days and bring lifelong satisfaction.”

3. Make Bold Contact

Say hello on Twitter or Facebook. Ask your new blogging friend if they’ve had a good weekend or how their new e-book is coming. Tweet their posts. Ask if you can serve them in any way. I love the blog Random Meandering. I contacted the creator and asked if we could be friends. We’ve hiked together several times.

Joy from Unfolding Your Path to Joy, invited me to California and I spent the night on her boat. Megan “Joy Girl” has invited me to speak and sell books at a conference in New York in October.

4. Introduce Them to Your Community

Link to your new friend in a post. Add them to your blogroll. Make them look good! We all love links and recognition.

“Be kind, everyone is struggling.”

5. Notice Likes and Dislikes

Be caring and express interest by sending them links to relevant articles, music, websites, videos or blogs. Make the other person feel special and important.

“The best vitamin for making friends: B1” -unknown

6. Give

Encourage, praise and help your friends reach their goals. If I’m reading a great book I’ll send it to a blogging buddy when I’m finished. I’ve also sent ‘Thinking of You’ cards and other small surprises. I received a Starbuck’s gift card last week in my PO Box from an awesome friend, and I was on top of the world!

7. Join Them in Their Social Networks

Follow them on Twitter, befriend them on Facebook, join their forum, and include them in your LinkedIn network. Take small consistent steps. Make sure to invite your friends to your social media circle too.

“Avoid popularity if you would have peace” -Abraham Lincoln

Make Friends with Bloggers on Your Level.

Invite them to guest post on your blog or exchange guest posts. Reach out to beginners. It doesn’t matter how many readers they have. Everyone needs a break. Isn’t that what we all want? Give what you want to receive. Then give some more.

“I’ll lean on you and you lean on me and we’ll be okay.” –Dave Matthews Band

9. Purchase Their Products

Then, tell others about their new e-book. Join a forum, become an affiliate, or offer to put an ad on your blog at no cost. Promote them as much as you can. What better support can you give a friend?

“A true friend stabs you in the front.” -Oscar Wilde

10. Praise Them and Their Work

Tell them how much the friendship means and the impact of their work on your life. Give specific examples.

“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.”-Hubert H. Humphrey Jr
11. Pay Attention

Notice when your blogging friend is struggling. Our blogs ebb and flow. Our stats go up and down. Product launches fail. Life gets in the way. Encourage, praise and offer support. Be available in any manner you can.

“The best time to make friends is before you need them.”-Ethel Barrymore

12. Joint Ventures

Look for ways where you can partner together on future projects. Make suggestions and help each other grow.

“The road to a friend’s house is never long.” Danish Proverb

13. Connect Socially Offline

Connect at community events. Meet at conferences. I know of speakers who Master Mind and then gather in person at the National Speakers Association annually. This has led to vacationing together.

“Treat your friends as you do your pictures, and place them in their best light.” -Jenny Jerome Churchill

14. Interview Them on Your Site

Share your friends with your readers. What you give is what you’ll get back. It’s the universal law.

“Go out and make the best of each moment. Don’t ever give anyone more power over you than you have over yourself.” -Kathy Lee Gifford.

There will always be people who aren’t interested in your blog and don’t like your style. Let them go. Connect with someone else. There are millions of bloggers out there. Don’t let rejection get in your way or ruin your day!

Blogging is a long-term commitment. Friends look out for each other. Some bloggers will always be acquaintances–others will become friends and even business partners.

If you’re in it for the long run, many of us will know each other for the rest of our lives.

That’s powerful.

Your blogging life is what you make it.

Be creative. Be bold. Enjoy!

Your Turn:How do you turn bloggers into friends?

Tess Marshall is an author, speaker and the mover and shaker, at www.TheBoldLife.com, where she’ll hold you accountable for being bold. What would your life look like if you were 10 times bolder? Be sure to sign up for her RSS feed.

115 Responses to 14 Tips to Turn Bloggers Into Friends

  1. Sharbori August 11, 2010 at 9:43 am #

    This is a superb post Tess. I just love the tips that you have given as it makes blogging upfront, personal and intimate.

    In my own ways, I do a little bit of some of these but there is a lot to learn from what you have posted here. Have already contacted one blogger at Kolkata, India personally and she and I connected on FB as well. I am looking forward to more such.

    great post and I just love the line “Be yourself and give you to the world.” It sounds easy but really tough to do both. But when you do both, those rare moments light up your life.

    thank you.
    Sharbori recently posted..Where do we go from here

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 12:53 pm #

      Hi Sharbori. Tess will be by later, but I just wanted to pop in and say ‘hi.’ You have a beautiful spirit to share with others!

      • Sharbori August 11, 2010 at 1:13 pm #

        Hi Jean,

        good to hear from you. thanks for popping by and great guest blog.
        Sharbori recently posted..Where do we go from here

  2. Scott McIntyre August 11, 2010 at 9:44 am #

    Hi Tess,

    These is an excellent checklist- lots of good points about building connections with others.

    In the interconnected blogosphere, it’s no surprise that everyone benefits from mutually supportive relationships.

    Like any friendship in the ‘real world’, the key to making new blogger friends is to be genuine and helpful… anything else just won’t cut it if the friendship is to flourish.

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 12:54 pm #

      Hey Scott – speaking of mutual support – I really appreciate all the good work you do and the value you bring to others.

  3. Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 10:52 am #


    Thanks for leaving a comment for me! For me blogging has been a process of revealing myself one layer at a time. I also resist comparing my writing to others. If I get hooked I’ll quit reading that blog until I unhook. In other words when I feel confident I’m fine and when I don’t I fall into who I am isn’t good enough to share.

    Yes genuine and helpful is the key, add in a little laughter and fun and we’ll fly together into a better future for all.
    Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 12:56 pm #

      What a great point on not comparing yourself to others, Tess. ‘Unhooking’ is an excellent way to step away from that and see what’s really going on inside.

    • Sharbori August 11, 2010 at 1:17 pm #


      I agree with Jean – what a great point on not comparing with others. It needs courage, faith and conviction to not compare yourself with other great bloggers, e.g yourself and Jean included.

      When I write, I write from an internal urge to share, not necessarily to create an impact, but there are times when I have said to myself, I wish I could say that or express like others.

      as a psychologist, we use the word “unhooking” quite often when working with individuals in a group and it helps people to not over engage with dysfunctional processes – I guess this is similar.
      Sharbori recently posted..Where do we go from here

  4. Sandra Lee August 11, 2010 at 11:21 am #

    Tess, I’m so happy you wrote this post and shared your insight on building a great blog. Your blog is a special place and I know I will continue to learn so much from you. So many of the tips you offer have at their core being an excellent human being. The best blogging truly revolves around that principle. Just love this post!
    Sandra Lee recently posted..30 days of getting results with J D Meier

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 12:57 pm #

      Your blog is a special place too – so positive and supportive!

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:11 pm #

      I haven’t thought of it that way but you are correct it’s the way I’d befriend anyone not just a blogger! Thanks for your wonderful compliments. I appreciate you.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  5. Evita Ochel August 11, 2010 at 11:37 am #

    Hi Tess

    Oh how wonderful to read this from you and share in Jean’s space!

    Tess, all that you said is so true! I have know you for what I think is way over a year and it has been just such a gift to have your presence and now your friendship in my life!

    And if it weren’t for blogging… we most likely would have never known of each other!

    So whether our sites are around in the future or not, I know today that our friendship will still be there and that is just AWESOME!
    Evita Ochel recently posted..How to Embrace Change

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:00 pm #

      I’m happy to have you share in this space, Evita :) I love how guest posts open online doors so people like Tess can walk in and share their goodness. Isn’t it amazing how something like blogging that can seem rather technical and cold to outsiders can create such beautiful relationships?

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:13 pm #

      Hi Evita,
      I’m happy we’re friends as well and it’s awesome to think you’ll be in my life on this journey forever! Can’t wait until I meet you in person in October.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  6. Evelyn August 11, 2010 at 11:57 am #

    Hi Tess!

    I enjoyed this post. I’m learning and though it has been quite a learning curve..things are looking up.

    I do most of what you share on your list, but there’s always room for improvement. I’ve never done and interview, with one of my blogging friends, so that’s something I will consider doing in the future.

    Great list! :)

    Take care!
    Evelyn recently posted..5 Ways You Can Wake Up Your Facebook Page

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:02 pm #

      Evelyn – You’ve got such a warm and encouraging way about you. I can see you developing many strong friendships through your blogging endeavors.

  7. rob white August 11, 2010 at 12:04 pm #

    Hi Tess,
    Great tips. Like everything in life, you cannot receive value unless you give value. Life just doesn’t work that way. Sowing and Reaping is an intricate part of this ever expanding cosmos in which we live… and is especially true when talking about friendship (blogger or otherwise). One of the unexpected and great benefits I received after starting my blog was all the amazing people that I am able to connect with (esp. Tess).
    rob white recently posted..Money Matters – It Never Condemns- It Wants to Help

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:08 pm #

      Isn’t it amazing, really, what grows out of those seeds we sow online? It all seems so unlikely to people who haven’t experienced it, but sowing and reaping works in any environment.

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:14 pm #


      I know you walk your talk and can’t wait for your new book to come out. I look forward to our interview being posted soon.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  8. Tia August 11, 2010 at 12:06 pm #

    Hi Tess,

    I love this post. Recently, a few bloggers have become friends. I love connecting with them, and it’s important to continue to develop connections in life. It will sustain any activity – keep you going.

    Tia recently posted..Indispensable Blogging Lessons from HubPages

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:09 pm #

      I’ve found it’s the support from online friends that keeps me from toppling over when the winds of discouragement blow!

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:15 pm #

      Yes and too think there is no limit to new friends online. So if you get discouraged (and you too Jean), let me know and I’ll be there!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  9. Kate August 11, 2010 at 12:06 pm #

    Hey Tess,
    What a lovely post and very inspirational for us newbies:)
    It is good to hear that you have met some of your new friends personally, I think it makes such a difference……if you are Jean are ever in the UK feel free to pop in for tea!!
    Kate recently posted..Lovely Lists!

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:11 pm #

      Oh, I will SO take you up on that invite if I’m in the UK, Kate. And I do plan to get there one day :) And if you’re coming to Wisconsin for anything, the door’s open here too!

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:17 pm #

      Thanks so much for the invitation. I’d love to visit over a cup of tea. I have relatives in Scotland and may surprise you all some day.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

      • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:38 pm #

        Have you ever been to Wisconsin, Tess?

  10. Wayne Howard August 11, 2010 at 12:08 pm #

    Those are all really good tips. A lot of people don’t realize how important it is to connect with people and build relationships while blogging. You won’t go very far if you have the “all about me” mentality. We should all be working together to help everyone achieve their goals!
    Wayne Howard recently posted..New Theme!

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 1:50 pm #

      Right you are, Wayne. When we lift others up, we end up soaring too.

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:18 pm #

      I think it’s a great idea. I will come visit your blog to see what kind of goals you have cookin’ and how I can help you. Thanks for stopping by to comment.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  11. Farnoosh August 11, 2010 at 12:23 pm #

    Being sincere, giving and sharing your kindness. Really and truly wanting to make friends and enjoying the process. Beautiful topic. Making friends with my blogging buddies has made blogging a different world, one that I cannot wait to wake up to. I love these rules, Tess and you are all of them, no doubt. Thanks for a lovely post!
    Farnoosh recently posted..10 Smart Questions to Ask before Choosing your Next Language

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:19 pm #

      That is an awesome way to put it…you can’t wait to wake up to your online friends! I appreciate you.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:38 pm #

      I am so glad that we connected, Farnoosh. You’re stuck with me for good :)

  12. Angela Artemis August 11, 2010 at 12:33 pm #

    This a terrific post. All your points are so on-target.
    It’s amazing how we really do make friends online.
    I never would have believed this just a few short years ago.
    Thanks so much for another fabulous post full of wisdom!
    Angela Artemis recently posted..Hey! There’s a Face in That Orb!

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:28 pm #

      I’m glad our paths have crossed. Who knows what it will all lead to…a better world and lots of fun I hope!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:39 pm #

      I was given so many warnings about being careful on the internet and all the shady characters I’d run into. Little did I know what a beautiful experience was waiting for me!

  13. Keith Davis August 11, 2010 at 12:51 pm #

    Hi Tess
    “Joy from Unfolding Your Path to Joy, invited me to California” – if Joy is reading this comment, I’m sure I’d love California. LOL

    Don’t think I was thinking about making friends when I started blogging but I feel now that I am part of the community – seems to start with sites like this one and Barbara Swaffords site and radiates out.

    There are lots of faces I recognise and count as friends.
    Keith Davis recently posted..A splash of colour

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:27 pm #

      It’s been at least a year since we’ve know each other. I don’t think I had any idea of the connections I’d make online when I began my blog. Isn’t life grand?
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:41 pm #

      Okay, now someone needs to tell me about Barbara Swafford – it sounds like I’m missing out on something good!

  14. Lori August 11, 2010 at 12:52 pm #

    Hi Tess and Jean!
    Welcome to the blogger huddle Jean (check Tess’ recent penguin post — it’s a gem with a huddle!). Come over here for a minute and let me give you some warmth and fuzzies, Jean.

    Tess, just when I think I’ve read the best post ever by you, I see this and once again I’m tickled pink. I LOVE THIS! You’ve captured so well all the reasons I blog too and get a hoot out of it.

    I’m looking forward to many years of your friendship and to meeting you someday soon. Yay for New York! Give everyone lots of hugs from me, will ‘ya?

    Big hugs,
    Lori recently posted..The Jurassic Flower

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:21 pm #


      Oh isn’t it fun to be friends? And next time we’ll have a conference in CA. If you can’t come to us we’ll come to you!Just think we’ll be growing old together!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:43 pm #

      Lori, don’t tell anyone but I spent a big chunk of time this morning catching up on Tess’s posts when I was supposed to be writing :) Tess, you are SO talented. I knew that, of course, but what a beautiful reminder I had today.

  15. Jered August 11, 2010 at 1:21 pm #

    Wow. This is an excellent post.

    There’s actually a formula I use when meeting new people to get instant friendship.

    AA + GS + RC = IF

    “AA” stands for Authentic Appreciation. You have to have a deep sense of the other person’s worth. “GS” stands for Genuine Selflessness. You have to put the focus on giving to the other person. “RC” stands for Reciprocal Coolness. If the other person can see your worth, and they can put the focus on giving to you, you have the start of a friendship. “IF” stands for Instant Friendship.

    Thank you for this post. Blogging is certainly a team sport.
    Jered recently posted..The Power of Purpose

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:22 pm #

      That’s an excellent formula. I can’t think of adding a single thing. Thank you for sharing.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:44 pm #

      Jered, that’s awesome. What a great guest post that would make :)

  16. Jillian August 11, 2010 at 1:38 pm #

    Well done Tess!

    This was definitely a post I needed to read. Building friendships is not always something I’m great at, too often I wait for people to come to me. Thanks for inspiring me to go out on a limb :)
    Jillian recently posted..Choosing a Web Host

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:23 pm #

      No no don’t wait for anyone to come to you. When you find a blog you love just jump right in and say hello. Is that an easy first step or what? Then follow my tips or Jered’s formula! It’s a pleasure to meet you Jillian.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:47 pm #

      Hi Jillian. You’ve got so much to bring to the party! Really, there’s a world full of people out here from all different niches and backgrounds just waiting for you.

  17. Lance August 11, 2010 at 2:44 pm #

    Hi Barb,
    What a great guest you have here today – I love what Tess shares!!

    Wonderful to read this today…and believe even more in the beauty of connection! I’m just back from vacation, and during that time – took the opportunity to connect, in person, with several bloggers I’ve come to know over the last couple of years. What was so great – after developing an online friendship, the in person friendship was truly like seeing a friend I’ve known forever.

    Love what you’ve shared here today – and all the way that friendships can really blossom!!
    Lance recently posted..On Fields Pond

    • Tess Bold Life August 11, 2010 at 3:25 pm #

      Yes it’s amazing how we feel like we know each other when we finally meet in person, isn’t it. Someday I’ll be in Wisconsin and we’ll have to go for a run and then dinner! How’s that? Oh and Jean you too!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:50 pm #

      Another Wisconsinite! Woohoo! I’ll join you guys for dinner anytime after your run :) I love long hikes but tend to keel over when I run. Not that it’s not entertaining to folks when I do that :)

      • Lance August 12, 2010 at 8:51 am #

        Tess and Jean,
        Hey, I’m all for a run (or a hike) here in Wisconsin!!! (well…except for those pesky mosquitoes!!). And then…mmmmm….dinner! This is sounding like a most excellent day!
        Lance recently posted..On Fields Pond

  18. Preeti @ Heart and Mind August 11, 2010 at 4:31 pm #


    I have seen you do many of things on your blog, including interviews of other blogger friends. That is neat! It is a great win-win for all. Yes, we can make some good friends online, I am believer as I think I have a few blogger friends that I love.
    Preeti @ Heart and Mind recently posted..101 changes- Change 6 – Read a book Benefits of reading

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 4:51 pm #

      Preeti, you are an expert in how to turn bloggers into friends. People (including this one) are just crazy about you. I truly hope to meet you one day.

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 10:49 am #

      Thanks so much for praising my blog. I’m honored you find it helpful. Also I appreciate you commenting and joining in on the community there and here. xo
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  19. Jane Rochelle August 11, 2010 at 5:47 pm #

    Thanks for the awesome post! These are great tips, and the post is so well written that I was just drawn in. Great reminders for me.
    :) Jane
    Jane Rochelle recently posted..Wishcasting Wednesday- Where Do You Wish To Send Some Love

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 7:03 pm #

      I know what you mean about being drawn in, Jane. Tess laid it out like a beautiful picture, both in terms of content and appearance.

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 10:50 am #

      Thanks you and it’s nice to meet you. I’m grateful you took the time to be drawn in and leave a comment. I appreciate you.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  20. Alien Ghost August 11, 2010 at 6:04 pm #

    Hi Tess,

    These tips show that blogging is not just an activity or a possible business, but a way of life.

    The promised rewards of possible money and/or popularity that some may want to achieve could easily be set to a second plane when we discover that blogging is much more than business, but a complete world by itself, if we want it to be like that and if we are willing to give our part.

    Alien Ghost recently posted..Role Reversal Guest Post

    • Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 7:02 pm #

      Raul, I’m now approaching blogging as a practice with a great deal to teach me about life. I struggle a lot with balance and time management issues, and this has been helping.

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 10:53 am #

      Yes a way of life and in that way we each have an opportunity to share our knowledge, wisdom and friendship. Those gifts will create a better world. Money and fame are always available but without friends, sharing and caring what’s the point. And besides to go for all that without the other is empty. And the minute one gets there the ego moves the line. So we never arrive.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  21. Jean Sarauer August 11, 2010 at 6:59 pm #

    Tess, I want to thank you again for this wonderful post and for the beautiful example you set for us of how to walk in this world. It’s been a delight to have you here at Virgin Blogger Notes.

  22. Katie August 11, 2010 at 9:37 pm #

    Tess, great heartfelt ideas. Simple kindness is what it all comes down to. This post could apply to business, school, work, neighbours, and life in general. Lovely post. Thank you. You too Jean!
    Katie recently posted..How to Colour Your Life with Shades of Joy

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 10:56 am #

      Oh dear I don’t even want to imagine a world without kindness. One story I read years ago that I’ll never forget…a woman in a Nazi concentration camp was working one day and happened upon a wild raspberry bush. It had one raspberry on it…she picked it and folded it in a leaf and presented it to her friend later that day. That’s kindness. That’s love and that’s the kind of friend I want to be and attract.
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  23. Joy August 11, 2010 at 10:23 pm #

    Hi Tess,
    All of the tips you share are fantastic..
    I think for me..my blog is representative of my “kitchen table”–LOL I don’t have a kitchen table on the boat, but if I did:) I serve ‘virtual foor’–insight, encouragement, support, versus real food..
    And the connections I’ve made online are as real as in life..online I stretch and grow as in life, and I put my heart out there as in life, and I reach to connect, to serve, to love as in life..
    In real life, there was a void in my friendships..I didn’t *know* like minded, energetic, enthusiastic people, and I would read blogs wishing these were my friends..so I reached out to each and now these are my colleagues, mentors, friends…So, I took the support from my online friends to manifest a group offline and it is amazing! It’s all so intertwined because I allow it to be..and I celebrate each connection fully…
    Joy recently posted..Wednesday Wisdom- Abundant Joy…An Interview with a Mentor…

  24. Cori Padgett August 11, 2010 at 11:09 pm #

    I made it! 😀 Lovely post Jean, Tess. I especially love number 6. It’s hard for folks sometimes to let go and give with no expectations, no hidden agendas… but you’ll always find that when you do, you open yourself up to receive as well, and it becomes a powerful circle of mutual generosity. God says give cheerfully, and it’s something I strive to remember and practice every day. (Do I always win? Lol..no..I have good and bad days!) But I do always try and that’s vitally important. Excellent post, thanks for sharing!
    Cori Padgett recently posted..BGB’s Entrepreneurial Readers Who are Rockin’ It

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 11:01 am #

      I think all humans have expectations that pop up, they’re sometimes hidden. Or maybe I should say hidden agendas but we can get so crazy we deny we have a hidden agenda!

      I would love to be as gracious and generous as Mother Teresa. She was my idol growing up. I wanted to work with her in India in her soup kitchen. I never made it but a friend of a friend did!
      Hey but I did go to Mississippi for a week after Katrina, I went to Brownsville Texas and volunteered and Mexico as well. In the end it’s not important who or where we give to…just that we give. I have a feeling you already know that!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

      • Cori Padgett August 12, 2010 at 11:20 am #

        LOL..too true. :) I’m probably certifiable at least every other day. 😉

        That is awesome that you went to volunteer in Texas and Mexico… I would love to do something like that one of these days. Mayhap when my kiddies are a bit older and a little more self-reliant! lol

        But yes, exactly right… who and where isn’t important… it’s the giving itself whenever and wherever that counts. God sees your heart, and that’s enough! :)
        Cori Padgett recently posted..BGB’s Entrepreneurial Readers Who are Rockin’ It

        • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 5:56 pm #

          Yes I did wait until my kiddies were self-reliant. Then I had my mom come stay at times as well. Let me know when and where you go and don’t forget…it’s never too late so don’t give up on that dream. You’ll meet the most amazing people.

          After Katrina I came home thinking I didn’t have any problems only minor inconveniences. It’s still true.
          Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  25. Dev - Technshare.com August 12, 2010 at 2:45 am #

    Hey Tess,

    Awesome post. Some really great points there.
    I think doing interviews and connecting socially are best ways to turn bloggers into friends.

    Thanks for sharing this great Post. Really Great work.

    And Jean.. my friend you’re really doing awesome work everywhere. And it’s awesome to see your every post getting more than 50 comments :).

    Keep up the awesome work.

    Dev – Technshare.com recently posted..Backlinks and Backchat – The Bloggers Guide to Social Bookmarking

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 11:06 am #

      I just checked out your blog and signed up for your newsletter and RSS feed. I know you have a few things to teach me;)

    • Jean Sarauer August 12, 2010 at 5:34 pm #

      Hi Dev. You are one of the most consistently encouraging and supportive people Ive run into in my online endeavors. I really appreciate you!
      Jean Sarauer recently posted..14 Tips to Turn Bloggers Into Friends

  26. Marion Anderson August 12, 2010 at 4:43 am #


    This is a great post and it comes at a very good time for me. I would add one comment to your list.
    If you ever visit a site where there is someone posting a guest blog then leave a comment. You will make a friend for life – especially if it is their first guest post.
    Marion Anderson recently posted..What is Reality

    • Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 11:08 am #


      I think that’s a great idea! And because we don’t know if it’s their first guest post we leave comments on all guest posts until were exhausted or out of time.LOL Thanks for leaving a comment for Jean and I today!
      Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  27. caren gittleman August 12, 2010 at 6:33 am #

    This is some fabulous advice.

    I am approaching my first anniversary of blogging and I have tried to institute a large number of points on your list.

    Guest blogging is FABULOUS, making friends with other bloggers and offering them help, retweeting and commenting on their blogs are all huge and mean a lot to the blogger.

    Thanks for the great post!

    Cat Chat http://opcatchat.blogspot.com
    caren gittleman recently posted..Midnight Needs A Furever Home-Semi-Wordless Wednesday

  28. Blog Angel a.k.a. Joella August 12, 2010 at 9:33 am #

    Far too many bloggers underestimate the power of building relationships online. They aren’t just social contacts, they are potential allies and business partners.

    Bloggers should not run around seeing each other as competition, but as colleagues. We can all accomplish much more individually if we can rely on one another.
    Blog Angel a.k.a. Joella recently posted..Keep Future Blog Post Ideas Organized In WordPress

  29. Hulbert Lee August 12, 2010 at 10:47 am #

    Love this post Tess. Like you, I have connected with a lot of people in the blogging world and turned them into friends or developed a nice relationship with them, using these tips you tell us here. Thanks for sharing them. I “especially” love tip #14. 😉

  30. Tess Bold Life August 12, 2010 at 11:12 am #

    I like no 14 the best myself and specifically for the rejection part. I’ve been turned down by some when asking for a guest post but hey…I’m not a good match for everyone. I just tell myself there are millions of bloggers. Ask somebody else! I used to be a addictions therapist and clients had such fear about finding a sponsor and I would tell them that line and always give them a good laugh. We can apply that advice to anything and I think it should be a commandment taught to children who struggle so with rejection. Oh well so what…next! I’ll talk to you tomorrow!
    Tess Bold Life recently posted..March of a Blogger- What Penguins Can Teach Us

  31. Joshua Noerr August 12, 2010 at 11:51 am #

    I have made some awesome friends in my short 5 months of blogging and I can’t think of anything I would trade blogging for. Thanks for a very uplifting and motivating post Tess!
    Joshua Noerr recently posted..The Only Two Emotions That Matter

  32. Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord August 12, 2010 at 12:31 pm #

    Tess, you are an absolutely BRILLIANT BLOGGER who has changed my life for the better. One of the first things I noticed about you was how you direct your very BIG energy in a personal way. And you share so generously, people would think it’s your job. You’re just so-so good and have become a close friend of mine, as a result of all of your awesome actions. Well wait, that sounded shallow (and conditional!). Your actions drew you closer into my life, thus allowing me to fall head-over-heels in love with who you are as a person. And you are LOVE, baby! Through and through.

    Big hug!
    Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord recently posted..New Web Site

  33. Faye August 12, 2010 at 1:23 pm #

    Tess, great post! Really like your tips. Thanks.

    Jean, thanks for inviting Tess.

  34. Dia August 12, 2010 at 3:07 pm #

    Hi Jean and Tess,

    Very nice tips you have here. I believe establishing strong relationships with other bloggers and complimenting their work are ones of the most important things one can do. Thanks for sharing
    Dia recently posted..5 ways to get rid of painful memories

  35. J.D. Meier August 12, 2010 at 3:08 pm #

    Joint ventures sounds like the perfect way to pair up and make things happen!
    J.D. Meier recently posted..Day 10 – Feel Strong All Week Long

  36. Keith August 12, 2010 at 6:27 pm #

    Hello Tess!

    When I found out that one of my favorite blogging buddies was over here, I had to come and check it out! I am very glad I did too! Great post Tess, it is really packed with great tips.

    One of my favorites of the tips you shared is number six. Giving always rewards two at once, the recipient and the giver.

    Great job with this Tess, and you certainly know how to make friends! I am blessed to have met you!

  37. The Londoneer August 12, 2010 at 6:52 pm #

    Well a bunch of us London bloggers are going for a trip along the Thames on Saturday – I haven’t met one or two of them in the flesh before so I’m sure it will be fun, One of them is a BBC producer (really!) and I’m thinking about introducing some video ‘vlogging’ so I might ask for a couple of basic tips :)
    The Londoneer recently posted..The Philips Livable Cities Award

  38. Brooke August 13, 2010 at 8:20 am #

    I’ve only been at it for a year but I keep saying the best thing about blogging is the people you meet. And I’ve met some AMAZING people. We have more in common than the ones that I’ve known my whole life.
    Brooke recently posted..NOLA- The French Quarter

  39. Meg - Minimalist Woman August 13, 2010 at 8:42 am #

    What a lovely post! I like the way you’ve put down the simplest and most essential ideas and in such a way that I can carry it in my head quickly and easily. Now that I’ve gotten my own blogging sea-legs (not quite 5 months now with my current blogs), I feel ready to reach out to other bloggers for interviews and maybe even joint ventures :)
    Meg – Minimalist Woman recently posted..Minimalism and How It’s Shaping My Life

  40. Bob August 13, 2010 at 11:28 am #

    Thanks so much for the link to Julie’s Random Meandering site. I enjoy what she has to say and am looking forward to regular feeds. I never would have stumbled on this without your help. Thanks again.
    Bob recently posted..5 Things That Can Make YouUnhappy

  41. Julie August 13, 2010 at 3:22 pm #

    Hi, Jean Hi, Tess :)

    It was a meaningful day for me when you wrote me, Tess. Not only did I face a long-held fear of leaping into the unknown (our “blind date” was fun!) but I met a new friend. :) Knowing you in person and coming to love others through comments, social media, and e-mails has given me the realization that this online world is as tremendously powerful in our lives as the “real world” is.

    Loving you xoxo ~Julie
    Julie recently posted..Love Song

  42. Kissie August 13, 2010 at 4:10 pm #

    Judging from all of these comments, I’d have to say you definitely practice what you preach!

    I enjoyed this and can use them in my other life as well. 😉

    Thank you!
    Kissie recently posted..Why Didn’t I Think of That

  43. Vitaly Tennant August 13, 2010 at 5:35 pm #

    Ohh man, this is some great stuff! thanks for sharing these tips. Good to read things like this, even though some of them are common sense, it’s good to be refreshed and re-adjusted into the light.
    Vitaly Tennant recently posted..Multiplying your Money

  44. Jannie Funster August 13, 2010 at 8:19 pm #

    I lure friends in with poems, then design cute little sidebar link buttons for them.

    I also give my blog friends donuts and beer and they seem to like that a LOT!! :)

    Oh, and I sing them songs on video. Yep.

    And I LOVE Tess Marshall!!!

    Jannie Funster recently posted..Song Baby a flash 55 poem

  45. Joan Nova August 15, 2010 at 7:57 am #

    I found a link to this post on Gera’s at Sweets Foods Best of the Week and I’m glad I decided to pursue. Great article and interesting blog for bloggers. You’ve got a new subscriber…and friend. :)
    Joan Nova recently posted..A Taste of Spain

  46. Laura August 17, 2010 at 2:05 pm #

    That’s really great advice you’re giving. It’s really important to connect with other bloggers if you want to have a successful blog. I think being yourself is the most key part though. Let people like you for who you are and don’t try to force the relationship if you’re just not compatible types of people. Having an enemy is worse than having a non-friend.
    Laura recently posted..What’s In the New Flood Insurance Bill?

  47. Becky August 17, 2010 at 10:30 pm #

    This is a great way to look at your work. It is always nice to build a friendship. People now days are far too busy to get to know each other. I hope this will work well for you.


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